This is a copy of a blog post that I subscribe to called Happily Ever After. Go to the bottom and read that blog first and then scroll up and read my response. Then leave a comment about whose opinion you agree with. If you disagree with me, tell me, If you agree with me, tell me that as well. I invite all comments
I have to disagree in part with your social worker. Men are emotional. And yes they do not typically show their emotions. Men gaurd their emotions more than they do their testicles.
Women make serious mistakes with their husbands and cause them to keep their emtions to themselves. Women dream about living happily ever after and men do as well. The problem is that women don’t make it safe for a man to open up to her. A man wants his wife to be his best friend and confidante. Unfortunately, when a man says anything deemed the least bit critical of the wife the average woman immediately goes on the attack and teaches the man to never ever do that again. Unfotunately the man learns the lesson all to well and pulls back like a turtle in a shell. Additionally, when a man approaches his wife for sex, he is very vulnerable emotionally. When she refuses him and makes put down comments when he persists it dashes his hopes of happily ever after. 60% of women have their husbands on a starvation diet of sex once a week or less. The man seethes inside but usually stays around, unhappy. To quote Thornton Wilder and his play Our Town: “Most men, live lives of quiet desperation”.
Men also want their wives to be the biggest cheerleaders and most women see it as their mission in life to fix the husband and make critical comments to him. The man has to rein in his emtions, because if he let them go, he would rage at her. He feels cheated, denied, undervalued and utterly defeated. It is my job to try and fix the damage done to the guy’s ego in the marriage. It is also my job to teach the wife the care and feeding of the husband.
I hope that this gives you some fresh insight into the male psyche and why we have trouble expressing emotions.
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