Advanced Sexual Techniques For Men, Women Pay Attention as Well

     This is a rough draft chapter from my soon to be finished book.  I am looking for critique from those who read it.  I struggle with language to use.  Some say that I should only use clinical language to describe body parts.  Others say that it is too cold and too clinical for something so personal.  I am experimenting with using both in the chapter for those who want clinical terms and slang terms for the rest of us.  So please leave me constructive criticisms.  Add anything that you think that I missed and should have included.  This is an interactive piece.  The name of the book is going to be SEX EDUCATION FOR ADULTS, SECRETS TO AMAZING SEX AND HAPPILY EVER AFTER TOO!  Tell me what you think of the title as well.  I want to make this the best book out there on relationships and I truly want to help couples realize their dream of happily ever after.

    Every man worries to himself about his adequacy to satisfy a woman in bed.  Sadly, learning how to satisfy a woman largely depends upon women telling us what they like and don’t like.  Since many women are shy and unwilling to talk about their needs wants and desires in bed, we as men don’t get much reinforcement. Believe me, they do talk to their women friends and family about how good or bad you are in bed. We simply don’t learn much from our sexual encounters and continue to go on giving the women in our lives “inadequate sex”.  After talking to a lot of women about their feelings of frustration over the lousy sex that they were getting, I have compiled this report in how to literally drive a woman wild in bed and having her literally begging you to “take her.”  These techniques are “field tested and women approved”.

     One of the main complaints women have is that there is far too little foreplay by the men.  Men are in such a hurry to “get to the destination” and women want to take their time and “enjoy the journey.”  I am going to give you foreplay techniques that will literally drive women wild and begging you to take them.  The key is that you have to have the patience to follow through with these techniques.  If you do, not only will you get the sex, but you will get great sex from a woman who is hugely turned on and wanting you.

     I never understand why you guys are in such a hurry to get it done.  Sex feels good, why do you want to rush it.  Most men love to talk dirty in bed and wish that their woman would talk dirty in bed with them as well.  Well men, do you know what a woman’s favorite four letter word is; TIME.  You don’t spend enough time building sexual tension in her so that she can climax more easily.  If you take your time in foreplay and making love with her, you will find that she is much more agreeable to the things that you want her to do including talking dirty to you in bed.

    One of the best foreplay techniques, especially for a woman that you are trying to get into the sack for the first time is starting with hair brushing and then massage.  This calms a woman’s nervousness because neither one of these techniques are overtly sexual and therefore are not perceived by them as a threat or trying to get into their pants.  What they don’t know is that they will put you in complete control and have her so turned on by the end of it, that she will be pissed at you if you don’t take her.

     Let us start with hair brushing.  Tell her that women just don’t get enough “pampering” from men and on behalf of all men, you would like to make it up to her personally.  Ask her to go and get her hairbrush and come back and sit on the floor in front of you.  Have her put a cushion on the floor to sit on so that she is comfortable.  Have her lean back against your legs to take the load off of her back.  (this already establishes an intimate contact with you, that is still not perceived by her as sexual and so this will not scare her or make her “on guard”).  Trust me, she has never had her hair brushed by any other man, and so she will not be on guard, but she will also see you in a whole different light than other men that she has known.  You will be multiple “brownie points” ahead of all the other men in her life.  You want to be set apart in her mind as “completely different” and heads and tails above the rest.  The last thing that you want her thinking in her mind while you are making love with her is that a previous boyfriend did it better to her than you are doing.

     Now you spend about a good ten minutes brushing her hair slowly.  She will just go into “nirvana”.  What she does not realize is that it is releasing “endorphins” into her brain.  This predisposes her to further sensory inputs which you will provide.  Once she has entered the zone after 10 minutes of hair brushing, you put down the brush and tell her you are going to further pamper her by giving her a nice back rub which will develop into a full body massage. ( you don’t tell her that it will go to a full body rub, or it will make her nervous.  In fact the best technique is to not tell her at all,  but just take control and start massaging her.  Women like men to be self confident and in charge in the bedroom)

    You start the massage by stroking her hair and lightly scratching her scalp which is basically a continuation of the hair brushing.  Again, she does not perceive this as sexual and further relaxes and let’s her guard down.  You then massage and stroke her neck, down her shoulders and her arms.  You then proceed down her back down to her lower back.  You then just naturally go on down her butt without asking permission.  She might momentarily tense up, but you simply ignore it and proceed to massage her butt cheeks thoroughly.  You spend a good 5-8 minutes massaging her butt cheeks with a kneading motion.  You will connect with nerve endings that she did not even know that she had. These nerve endings are connected to her pussy (vagina)and her clitty(clitoris).  She will end up getting sexually aroused which will be evident by her panties getting wet.  You then go on down each leg individually massaging them thoroughly including her feet.  As you transition from her butt to her thigh, keep one hand on her butt cheek and the other on her inner thigh.  Make sure that your hand is massaging her inner thigh right next to her pussy.  The fact that your hand is so close to her pussy and that you are not actually touching her pussy will drive her wild with anticipation.  It will cause her to start desiring to have sex with you.  She will also marvel at your amazing self control because most men would have immediately tried to touch her pussy.  You then take your fingertips and start at her face and then stroke down her whole body lightly.  You go down her back, back and forth from head to foot about 3 times, and then you turn her over and do the same thing on her front.  On the last trip you stroke past her boobs and lightly over her nipples. They will get instantly erect.  You trace circles around the nipples and lightly caress her breasts.  You then continue down her body all the way down to her toes.  On the return trip back up, you stroke up both legs on her inner thighs at the same time.  As you go up her inner thighs, you slow way down to slow motion.  This builds anticipation and desire on her part and her panties will continue to get wetter.  At this time you strip her down to her bra and panties, slowly.

      Once you have her down to bra and panties continue to take your time. You then hook a finger inside the leg band of her panties and you stroke up and down without touching her pussy.  This will drive her wild with her desiring for you to stroke her pussy (vagina) or (clitoris) clitty.  You don’t, you resist the urge to touch them yet.  You stroke up and down each leg band of her panties which will hugely turn her on.  You then trace the line between her pussy lips (labia) outside of her panties back and forth several times.  She will be squirming by now.  You then bend down and place your mouth over her clitty (clitoris) and blow hot breath on her clitty (clitoris) through her panties several times.  She will continue to get extremely aroused. You then pull the crotch of her panties to the side and lick between her slit (labia) up and down several times.  She will be by now breathing heavily and thrusting against your tongue.  Now instead of sliding her panties down and off, you hook your hand inside the waistband of those panties and you in one powerful motion rip them from her body.  This will give her just a little fear but a whole lot of sexual excitement.  She now knows that she is going to be “taken” by you and she can’t wait to be taken by a real man forcefully and rough.  This technique has never failed me.  Every woman that I have ever done it to has loved it. Women like to be taken by a strong self confident man that knows what he is doing in bed.

    Now is when you really need to take charge.  You get at least a couple of pillows and place them under her butt to elevate her butt so that you can go down on her more comfortably.  You pull her legs apart roughly and spread them.  You then get your hands under her ass and squeeze her butt cheeks very firmly.  You drive your tongue into her pussy (vagina), burying it in her as deeply as you can.  You then proceed to tongue fuck her (tongue thrusting) for a couple of minutes.  You then proceed up to her clitty (clitoris) and suck it into your lips by placing a lip lock on it.  You suck it like you were sucking a thick milkshake through a straw.  It will start to engorge with blood and swell.  You keep sucking it and then start pulling on it with your lips.  You can get it to stretch outside of its foreskin or hood.  When it has swollen, give it a little clitty blow job by going up and down the shaft of her clitty (clitoris) and still sucking strongly.  She will be highly aroused by now and perhaps have even come.  You then move her tongue against her clitty like a machine gun as fast as you can.  The way to practice this is by placing your tongue against your upper lip and creating a spring tension against your lip and then you start flicking against that lip as fast as you possibly can.  Once it flicks out and hits her clitty, it is guaranteed to drive her wild and make her come.  Take your time and get her off two or three times.  Now she will literally be aching to be penetrated by you.  You can even pull the hood of her clitoris back like a male foreskin and give the machine gun tongue directly on her clitty (clitoris).  The more time that you spend getting her aroused and making her come before entering her, the more turned on she will be and having you enter her will make it much more enjoyable for her.  The more enjoyable you make it for her, the more likely she is going to say yes to your sexual overtures to her in the future.

     Now that you have made her come, get on top and again make her wait.  Take your dick in your hand and stroke between her pussy lips (labia).  She will immediately want you to thrust into her, but resist the urge.  Stroke it back and forth and then stroke it on her clitty.  Once she can’t take it any more, slowly in slow motion enter her and stop for a minute. Start stroking it in and out of her pussy (vagina).  Kiss and lick and suck on her nipples while you are doing this.  The more simultaneous stimuli that you can apply, the more turned on she will become.  Now start literally pounding your dick into her but don’t come yet.  When you get the urge to come inside her, pull out and go back down on her and get her off again.  This will give you time to relax and avoid coming and then climb back on and start fucking (making love with) her again. Using this technique, I have made love to a woman literally for two hours and given her up to 20 climaxes.  Another thing that you can do is to pull out and change positions.  This keeps it from becoming boring to the woman.  Have her get on top of you facing away and give her a vibrator and tell her to apply it to her clitty (clitoris) while riding you.  This will enable her to climax during intercourse.  This also works in the doggy position and laying side by side and entering her from the rear.  The idea is that you want to give her as many climaxes that she can have.  Most guys never want to give a woman multiple orgasms.  Believe me, the time that you invest in making her come over and over again will repay you in her being eager to make love with you any time that  you want.  Most of you do it the same old way time after time.  It is like eating macaroni and cheese 3 meals a day.  Is it any wonder that women don’t want to have sex with you very much?  Women bore easily. It is up to you to vary your approach to her if you want the sex regularly.

 Another technique developed by the pioneer sexual researchers, Masters and Johnson was to take the head of your dick and squeeze it (or have her squeeze it between the thumb and forefinger.) This will instantly kill your urge to come and yet not effect your erection.  This will enable you to continue to screw her without you coming.  If she can climax during intercourse, this will give her the time to do so.  If she can’t she will enjoy the longer intercourse time.

     Finally, after you come, don’t stop there.  She is capable of more orgasms.  My suggestion is to order a vibrator called the Hitachi Magic Wand electric vibrator.  You will have to order it online.  It is the industrial strength power tool of vibrators.  It is guaranteed to rock her world.  Take her in your arms, have her hold the vibrator on her clitty while you simultaneously suck and lick her nipples and finger fuck (rapidly inserting your finger in and out of her vagina) her pussy.  She will knock off another half a dozen climaxes in your arms.  You can also give her a G spot orgasm.  Once she is aroused, thrust your finger or two fingers in and out of her.  You don’t thrust them in all the way but only about 11/2 inches in against the roof of her pussy (vagina).  Think of how you stroke your dick when beating off.  You start slowly and build up speed and pressure where you are doing it very fast.  If she has a G spot orgasm, she will likely gush vaginal fluids or even squirt.  It is a powerful orgasm that is much stronger than a clitty (clitoral) orgasm.  You will need to hold her tightly if this happens because she will feel weak, and cold and shiver afterwards.  Wait a couple of minutes and do it again.  Once she reaches this level of arousal, she can have multiple G spot orgasms. It is your job to give them to her.

    Once she is done, now if you really want to get “brownie points” as the world’s greatest lover”, cover her with a sheet.  You then go into the bathroom and get a large beach towel and soak it in very hot water.  You then wring it out very dry and then take it in and drape it over her bare back and give her a hot towel massage.  In the process clean up between her legs.  You then cover her back up and go in and get it hot again, but this time not so hot and then roll her over and drape it over the front of her body and again massage her and clean her up.  You cover her back up with a sheet; throw the towel back into the bathroom.  You then take her favorite powder and dust down her whole body massaging it in as you go.  You then climb into bed with her and hold her in your arms and talk to her while you hold her and cuddle her. If you follow my suggestions, you will be much better than 99% of the other men out there and she will definitely want to make love with you again.  She will also rave about your performance to her girlfriends.  Good luck men.  Women if you are reading this, I suggest that you show my instructions to the man that you are sleeping with.  If you don’t currently have a man, then show it to the man who wants to make love with you..  Ask him if he is man enough to step up to the plate and pleasure you the way that you want to be pleasured.  If he pooh poohs the idea, then don’t let him have sex with you because  you are assured that you will be disappointed in his performance.

7 Responses to Advanced Sexual Techniques For Men, Women Pay Attention as Well

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  2. Clayton & Bonea says:

    Obviously your sexual instructions are NOT geared toward a woman of color! Hair brushing would be a TOTAL turn off! Honestly, not just for women of color, but a turn off for most women. About your massage… is it a dry one, with no oil or lotions? That is important to know. And why are you so focused on her butt? Your oral moment seems rather boring and traditional. A woman wants exciting, different, and breath taking. As a woman… if you came to me with what I just read…I would NOT let you “take me”.

    • Clayton
      I am fixated on the butt because women have an extraordinary amount of nerve endings there and I have never had a woman
      reject my massaging her butt. They in fact get turned on by it..

      As to massage, no I don’t use oils ore lotions and start out massaging through clothes. The message is about men tanking more time giving foreplay to the woman to get her ready and sufficiently aroused to have sex instead of the wham baam thank you maam that most guys use and most women resent.

      Note that I have published your complaint rather than trash it. Chek out other blogs or my profile and my compliments outnumber complaints at a ratio of 500-1.

      Thanks for stopping by and commenting.
      John Wilder

    • I meant check out my other blog posts, not other people’s blogs
      John Wilder

  3. Ayurveda says:

    Pilates…

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  4. Guido says:

    Decent article, however your use of the turn “clitty” gives the whole thing a very juvenile feel that makes it somewhat hard to take the article seriously.

    • I hear you but clitoris sounds so dry and clinical and makes for more boring reading in my view.
      I am trying to reach as many people as possible including the less cerebral ones.

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