Giving Your Man A Great Blow Job and Overcoming Your Inhibitions About It

I am reposting this article. Every day, it gets read by at least 4 or 5 people. In fact it is my number one read article. I write for women to get over their inhibitions over giving their men oral sex. A man feels cheated and rejected and unloved when a woman refuses him this sublime pleasure. A woman who refuses this pleasure is not giving herlself completely to her man. I suggest getting over your inhibitions about this and become adept at pleasuring your man.

This is an age old discussion. There are many women who refuse to give their husbands blow jobs. “Ugh, gross, I am not going to do that”. “Little girl” inhibitions are cropping up again here. Do you want to have a Bill and Hillary marriage where your husband has to go to other women or hookers to get a blow job? That is the number one thing men visit hookers for. A great percentage of men who frequent prostitutes are married. By your refusal, you are then a stumbling block for him as forbidden in the chapter on sex and the bible. Some of you will give your men blow jobs but won’t allow him to come in your mouth. Some of you will give him a blow job but then will spit out his semen. You claim that you don’t like the taste. Imagine if your husband went down on you but then spit out the vaginal secretions that he got in his mouth. How likely would you want him to go down on you again? What if he would not go down on you because he claimed not to like your taste? Really, when you tell your husband that, you are telling him that you think that he is disgusting and more of that age old sexism where women are good and men are bad.

If you really want to be cherished by your husband, and you want to show him your love, you need to learn to give him good blow jobs. Any woman can lay there with her legs spread and think about other things while her poor husband pumps away at her. It takes love and commitment to take his penis (dick) in your mouth and make love to him. It is intensely personal and loving. Without it, he feels profoundly cheated and disappointed.

For those of you who have a problem with getting semen in your mouth, you can take an intermediate step. You can put a condom on your husband’s dick (penis) and give him the blow job and you are not going to get any semen in your mouth. You can use it as a “baby step” to make progress. You can feel him ejaculate but not actually get the semen in your mouth. You should use this technique as a way to progress to a full blow job where you allow your husband to come in your mouth and swallow. At the very least, you should use this technique to give him a blow job. I know of women out there who won’t even take their husband’s dick in their mouth. I ask you if you are one of those women, why did you even bother to get married anyway? You need to get over this. You can if you have the right attitude. You can through a desensitization process called “successive approximations.” This basically means getting a little closer each time. Others would call it “baby steps”. The point being is that you are getting closer and making progress in moving forward in pleasing and loving your husband.

Now I know that many of you out there will complain about taste or consistency. Neither of those issues needs to be a problem if you have the right attitude and practice the right technique. It is really a simple matter to solve. When your husband’s climax is imminent, instead of trying to block his ejaculation with your tongue, you simply let him shoot to the back of your throat. You then quickly swallow. This solves both problems. You won’t taste his semen because all of your taste buds are on the front of your tongue. Following my technique you therefore don’t taste his semen. You also don’t have the consistency issue to deal with because again it is not hitting your tongue. Allowing him to shoot in the back of your throat, it simply feels like a little extra saliva in your mouth. If you spit out his semen, you get it on your tongue and have the taste and consistency to deal with. You can do this if you decide to.

For all you feminists out there who claim to espouse equal rights, how is it fair for you to expect your man to go down on you and you don’t return the favor? Where is his equal rights? Besides that, your vaginal secretions taste remarkably similar to his semen. Hillary is a feminist who obviously does not give Bill blowjobs and look what that got her. Do you really think that they have a happy marriage? Do you think that they are achieving “happily ever after”?

If you have not given your husband a blow job but have now decided to, it is not difficult. He will love you for attempting to please him. You simply go down on him and suck. If his penis is limp, you can generally take his whole dick (penis) in your mouth. You suck on it like you are sucking a milk shake through a straw. You also place your tongue firmly against his dick (penis). As his dick grows to a full erection, you go down as deeply on it as you comfortably can without gagging. You then wrap your hand around his dick (penis) at that point as a marker and don’t go deeper than that when you start vigorously thrusting up and down on the shaft of his dick. If your jaw gets tired or you need to remove your mouth to catch your breath, it is imperative that you continue stroking his dick with your hand or he will lose the momentum of getting to the point of ejaculating. If you stop, then you will have to start all over again.

There are other very obvious reasons to give your husbands blow jobs. Most of you won’t consider having intercourse when you are on your period. Why should your husband be deprived of sex just because you are on your period? If you really love him and care about his needs, you won’t deprive him of sexual relief. After childbirth, you are forbidden from intercourse for 6 weeks on average. Again, why should your husband be forced to masturbate? Many women feel that they have the right to deprive him after childbirth. In fact many of you deprive your husband sex for months after giving birth claiming that you are too tired. He feels rejected, lonely and resentful towards you and the new baby.

Let me give you a technique that requires little energy expenditure from you and yet gets your husband off fairly quickly and keeps him happy and satisfied. This would involve two props: a pair of your lacy and silky panties and our Power Tool Vibrator. (go to our website to order this fantastic product) You give him a little foreplay by stroking your nipples across his penis (dick). You then start sucking his dick and take those silky panties, (the satiny back panel of the panties) and lightly stroke them across the underside of his scrotum (balls, nut-sack) This area is extremely sensitive to him. You continue to rapidly stroke very lightly with those panties on the underside of his scrotum while you are sucking on him. The silkiness of your panties causes him to think in terms of how silky the interior of your vagina (pussy) feels when it is well lubricated. You then turn the Power Tool Vibrator on high and place the bulb firmly on the base of his penis (dick). You simply hold the bulb of the vibrator firmly against the base of his dick while you are sucking him. It is a very powerful stimulant to him and will cause him to get off much quicker, thereby conserving energy on your part. It will also give him a mind blowing orgasm because of the combination of the sensation of you sucking him, stroking him with your panties and the powerful vibrator. Don’t be surprised if he screams in ecstasy in the most intense orgasm he has ever had.

Now for you women who absolutely refuse to give your husband a blowjob or who won’t let him come in your mouth, there is a variation of the above scenario. You simply not only stroke those silky panties under his testicles, but you wrap the silky side of the panties around his cock and stroke them up and down his dick. You then place the Power Tool Vibrator at the base of his dick and let him ejaculate into your panties. He will fantasize about coming inside of you. It will take care of his urgent need for sexual relief and is so much better than making him masturbate. You should never ever make your husband masturbate to relieve himself. He will have a lot of resentment towards you because you are not taking care of his sexual needs. The above technique is not the best, but you should promise him that you will never ever deny him sex again, even if you have to give it to him less than what he desires.

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35 Responses to Giving Your Man A Great Blow Job and Overcoming Your Inhibitions About It

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  6. Sharon Cochrane says:

    I speak to many married men who are so totally unhappy because their wives won’t suck their cocks anymore – they are terribly frustrated, feel undesirable, lose their confidence in themselves, and it affects their mental health. What is wrong with these women? Their husbands are straying to porno, other women, and to me because I will listen to their dirty talk. But what can I say to help them?

    • A whole lot of women are self centered. It does not help that feminists encourage this. If you think about it it takes so little to please a man and keep him contented. Men are much simpler than women.

      In defense of women, we live in a very puritanical society and as a result have the highest divorce rate on the planet, the highest incidence of sexual assault on the planet. It is in part because of parents and the churches who teach little girlst that sex is bad, dirty and wrong and that good girls don’t do it. By the time a woman is ready to embrace her sexuality, she is often so negatively conditioned that it ruins her for life. The churches never teach the sex positive messages in the bible that commands us to have great sex lives.

      Blessings on you and yours
      John Wilder

  7. hacker5 says:

    hi all,

    my wife refuses to give me blow job. we have had serveral fights about this. i am just tired of trying to talk to her about it again. advice pls

    • You have my deepest sympathies? I have for the record before I enter into a relationship with a woman insist that she be willing to provide blow jobs willingly and lovingly or there will be no relationship. Nothing makes you feel better when she gulps down your come and nothing makes you feel worse than when she refuses.

      How about negotiating for it with something that she really wants?

      Blessings on you and yours
      John Wilder

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  9. unsatisfied says:

    I am a married woman and very in love with my husband. I do give my husband bjs, but not often and only before sex. As for swallowing….I did it to him once when we were dating, but never since. The reason? To be honest I love giving head, and I don’t mind swallowing. My husband does not go down on me, and if he does…it’s terrible.( he has only done it 2 or 3 times over 11 years) I really don’t know why. I shave complete, take a shower every day, and have a healthy diet. I just don’t think he can handle the taste, but I still love him anyway. (wouldn’t go looking for some man-whore to go down on me..lol)I know he would like me to just give him oral until he cums, but don’t feel he has the right to ask. He never does…I suppose he agrees. Sometimes I wish it could be different, but to tell you the truth it does hurt that he won’t go down on me. I get the urge to suck my man’s cock until he finishes sometimes, but I want to cum too. Intercourse is the only way I get my pleasure and if he cums…no pleasure for me. My husband will also not have sex with me while I am on my period( I get horny on my period)…I have to masturbate. I don’t force him. So it is not just men who are having these sorts of troubles…us ladies enjoy oral pleasure too.

    So husbands…go down on your wives, and do a good job. Be sure she cums…lots of women like to fake it just to make you feel better…strange but true. You will not be able to mistake it when she Really does cum. If you do this she will worship your dick by sucking you dry. I know I would, and this is the truth.

    BTW…about the “after giving birth thing”, I had a c-section…after that I simply didn’t feel like sex for awhile….includes bjs. My husband had a hernia, and had to have surgery…I didn’t get sex for about 2 months…hmmm…I don’t think you are being very fair about the birth thing. Give your lady time to heal…she’ll love you for it. In most cases women should please the husband as much as possible (if she is getting pleased as well).

    I wish luck to all ladies and gentlemen in getting and giving some great oral sex.

    • Hey Claire:

      You have my complete sympathy. If you read my other blogs, I take men on for their selfishness in bed. I teach them when it comes to orgasms, it is ladies first. I teach men to give a woman head before he ever mounts her and bring her to orgasm. It makes interccourse more pleasurable for the woman. I also teach them to when they feel like they are going to come, to pull it out and go back down on his woman and give her another climax and then climb back on. Doing it this way, you can have sex for a couple of hours instead of a couple of minutes. I tell men that sex feels good, why rush through it. I tell them if they took better care of their women then women would be more likely to give them sex.

      Now I must disagree with you about giving a woman head and she will give it back. I have given a lot of women head and brought them to great climaxes and still they would not blow me. My deal is no mutual head, no relationship.

      As to sex on periods too many women refuse to have sex on their period. I say, the only reason to refrain is on your heaviest day but on the other days, then put a towel under her butt and go for it.

      For what it is worth, I give free half hour consultations, if you would like me to talk sense to your husband. Otherwise, find my blogs for men on how to make love to a woman and have him read them.

      Blessings on you and yours
      John Wilder

      • Becker0109 says:

        I used to be first to “arrive” but after awhile I saw the dissatisfaction in my wife’s eyes. I remember the “verbal lessons” I learned from my female friends as I was growing up. I applied them, got decent enough to give her an “O.” After I saw the pleasure on her face as she rode the orgasmic waves it turned me around. I’m not a prude and I’ve seen the destruction that a “less than satisfied” marriage can do the both a man and a woman. I find that a Christian marriage can have the trappings of a “worldview” that’s against God’s view of marriage as He spilled it out from Genesis to/through the New Testament. The Song of Solomon, Ephesians 5, and other scripture are the basis of a God blessed marriage.

      • Yes and don’t forget Proverbs 5 where he says: “L:et her breast satisfy thee at all times and be thou always ravished in her love”
        Ravished is just biblical word for great sex. Also I Cor 7 where neither partner can deny each other sex.

        John Wilder

  10. nicola copeland says:

    me and my husband have been together 16 years , married for nearly 3 and the sex is nothing but fantastic 🙂 im not entirley happy with giving blow jobs but my husband loves me to do it do him so how can i say no to him , we have sex about 4 times a week and he will spend hours going down on me , he can make me orgasm with out putting his penis in me and its fantastic , i normally surprise him with blowjobs , if hes on a late shift and im sure the kids are in bed ill wait by the front door with no clothes on and give him a blow job as soon as he walks through the door 🙂 or ill unzip his jeans and give him a blow job while hes watching telly 🙂 , he always rubs my arm just before he comes to let me know and then i swallow it down , he really loves it , i love to tie him up give him a blow job then get on top and ride him with the cum still in my mouth xx

  11. Becker0109 says:

    I forgot to say that Christ modeled servant to the world so why not model it in your marriage?? Men, serve your wife expecting nothing,

  12. Becker0109 says:

    John, you’re correct. I’ve seen women turn their attitude around when the Model of a servant is put in place. Often a husband will, for a few weeks do the “model” method, but the wife is watching to see if there is an expectation around the corner. Once she sees that he’s serving her out of his love for her she can usually turn around her attitude, knowing that he’s to be trusted. Only with the “trust” issue solved can a wife give herself fully to her husband. I believe a woman has have that trust “line” established if she’s to allow her her her “flight or fight” reaction to come to trust her man. Great blog and thanks!!!

  13. Becker0109 says:

    My use of “women, woman, man, or men” can be interchanged depending on who’s reading my response.

  14. Hey Becker0109
    I agree in principle. In reality too often this is not the case. I would cite for you Promise Keepers. They were given this model and told that if they did this their wives would be more sexually giving.

    The movement has basically died because I have heard over and over that the guys admiiting to needing to do it better and that they did and still were not getting any more sex. Sadly statistics show that women with kids at home have their husbands on a “starvation diet of sex once a week or less. They get buried in mommy mode and neglect the wife mode.

    Blessings on you and yours
    John

  15. Becker0109 says:

    Great point and I understand it. I wonder if the Promise Keepers (PK’s) promised a return on the “investment” (Servant model)might have been leaked by a over anxious believer, and in the heat of a “no way” by his wife, he spilled the “guarantee?” Is so, that can go back to the “expection” role that many wives have come to see; thus the starvation that you refer to. In the end the guy is “held up” and the wives break the biblical stipulation to also serve their husband, as unto Christ. Either way the husband is left feeling alone, insecure, detached, and unloved by his wife.
    Again, a great point!!

  16. Well there is a biblical expectation that men have that their wives will satisfy their needs. I forgot to mention that the stat on wives starving husbands is about 60% but of course that leaves 40% who are taking care of their men.

    And you are quite right it leaves the man feeling unloved unappreciated, insecure, lonely and vulnerable to temptation.

    The bible is pretty clear in not being a stumbling block to our brother Brother is of course generic and can easily mean husbands.

    Blessings on you and yours
    John

  17. I have often seen women rallying around another woman when a guy is caught cheating on her. They NEVER ask her was she taking care of her man at home, it is that evil no good for nothing man who is TOTALLY at fault. Sadly church women are the most guilty of this because they have bought the lesson that sex is bad, dirty and wrong and that good girls don’t do it.

    John

  18. Tiffany says:

    Great article. I dont see how females couldnt like giving bjs. Looking up while sucking on his shaft (penis) and seeing how turned on he is and feeling it throbbing in your mouth has always been a turn on for me. In terms of taste, I always thought the saltiness is quite enjoyable and a good source of protein ;-))). Have him eat watermelon before blowing his load in your mouth. It does make a difference. An alternative to swallowing would be to have him blow it on your tits. In my experience a huge turn on for him and it feels nice and warm for you. As a bonus put some on ur fingertip and suck it off and make sure you moan while doing it, telling him how great he tastes, or, if you re well endowed, suck it from ur nipples. Your man will never go astray

    • Hey Tiffany
      You are so right. There are a lot of self centered women out there. Most women have dreamed
      of happily ever after but seldom give any thought about what “happily ever after” looks like for a
      man. Thanks for your comments
      John

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  20. Wendy says:

    What if you give your husband numerous blow jobs letting him come in your mouth and you taking time to please him, but he only gives you sex probably one time a month and sometimes one time in two months. What could you do besides masturbate when you (woman) wants sex?

    • Wendy
      I don’t know if you are a christian or not but I Cor 7 says that neither the husband or the wife
      own their body but it belongs to each other and neither are allowed to deny their partner sex.

      You are obviously a great wife but your hubby is not doing right by you. Men would kill to have a wife like you.
      Why does he say that he only wants to have sex with you once a month?

      John Wilder

    • By the way, I do give a free half hour consultation should you want to take me up on it.
      John

  21. Sunny says:

    I want to partially thank you for this post, in giving tips on how to overcome the “grossness” of giving a blow job. Although the post does seem quite selfish in a sense. “why deprive your man when you are on your period?” Seriously, like us women choose to have our periods and you don’t think we are deprived of sexual pleasure when we are on our periods? We have to suffer worse than a man whose “not getting any” with the cramps, and yes the red stuff too. We would gladly trade it off to any man that was able to handle it. Hence, the reason women have periods, men are too pussy to handle it. And the 6 weeks after child birth.. oh yeah, the first thing we are thinking about is sucking cock! Not hardly. We just pushed out an extremely large watermelon out of our cooch AND have to bleed for up to 6 weeks after that AND have a new baby to take care of (in which the women do most of anways, while they are recovering) A REAL man would never do a Bill Clinton on his significant other, he would understand the reasoning why a blow job isn’t the first thing on their mind. In addition, men have fantasies and even after giving them their ultimate blow job, they will move on to the next and then the next and then the next fantasy.. pretty soon we would be having to invite all the neighbors over. I have an extremely good sex life with my man and I don’t deny him blow jobs because he isn’t worthy, I do it because of the texture and the seeping. I have a very week stomach and it makes me gag instantly. This is something I really want to do for him and googled on how to be able to do it, I just didn’t realize that while learning how to overcome it, I was going to be belittled for being a woman at the same time. So thank you for the article.. half of it at least.

    • Hey Sunny
      Thanks for dropping by and giving me your comments.

      As to the period sex. I have another post on having sex on your period.
      I also do the Hitachi Magic Wand vibrator (powerful electric vib)for my woman when she is on herperiod so that she is not deprived. I am very pro pampering for women.

      As to the gagging, I can help you to overcome that. Millions of other
      women do. It makes him feel loved, cherished and special when you do
      this for him and feels the opposite when you refuse him.

      Climaxes help with period cramps believe it or not.

      You need to continue to be a wife to your husband after you have kids.

      Blessings on you and yours
      John

  22. Tim says:

    Hi, I’ve been married to my wife for 13 years. When we first got together all she wanted to do is give me blowjobs. As the years went by they got less and less, now she won’t even do it and says it makes her feel like a slut. I feel cheated, resentful, angry and unattractive. I often think of cheating on her just to get a blowjob. This article really hit home with me and I would show it to my wife but in her eyes I’d just be a pig. She doesn’t know how bad she’s hurting me. We usually end up in a huge fight if I bring it up so I don’t anymore it’s just not worth it. Thank you for writing about this kind of stuff. Women should know what they’re putting their men through by not doing such a simple thing.

    Thanks again!

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