What Women Want In Relationship and Mistakes That Men Make

What Women Want in a Relationship and Mistakes That Men Make

I have been accused by some women that I am a misogynist because I write about mistakes that women make in relationships. I do write more about that than anything else because no one else has the courage to suffer the slings and arrows that I do.
I am not anti woman or a misogynist, I am simply pointing out the common mistakes that women make in their relationships with men. It is just like Sex and The City where Carrie is clueless about men and goes to her gal pals who are equally clueless looking for answers. The problem is that they don’t have the answers. It would be like a guy going to his buddies and asking a guy what it feels like for a woman to be pregnant.

I try to be a resource for women to show them a better way based upon a lot of complaints made by men in my practice and on my blog. But to be fair, I need to take men on for the complaints that women make about men. This is only fair.

First men need to be mature. You need to be ready to commit to a relationship. You need to commit fully to it. You need to have a good job to be able to support a family.
You need to be strong emotionally and emotionally mature. You need to be strong and yet gentle respecting the woman and not trying to bully her. She is your equal and not a possession under your thumb. Never ever use your superior strength against her, it is designed to protect her not to beat her with.

You need to be ready for a family and study on what it means to be a good father as well as a good husband. You need to share the remote letting her watch her own shows in addition to your sports and blow em up movies. That means maybe also taking her to a musical , ballet, or symphony occasionally.

Be willing to go shopping with her at least occasionally and let her try on clothes while you watch and tell her what you like.

When problems arise, be willing to talk them out rationally instead of trying to bully her with shouting, pouting or emotionally withdrawing.

When it comes to sex, far too many men are about getting her done, but it really means is getting yourself done, and letting her needs go by the wayside. When it comes to orgasms, it is always ladies first. Don’t just roll over and go to sleep, but hold her and assure her that you love her, hold her and talk to her afterwards. Women want to feel loved and that you are making love with her instead of just using her as a piece of meat.
You need to be in it for the long haul and not look to other women when the going gets tough.

Well women , I invite you to share your thoughts with what I have written. Have I missed anything? Here is your time to explain what I missed. Just be nice in your comments because I was rooting for your team this time.

Blessings on you and yours
John Wilder
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78 Responses to What Women Want In Relationship and Mistakes That Men Make

  1. Hardy says:

    most american guys are looking for asian girls – most asian girls are looking for american money!

    • The question is why are guys looking for Asian chicks? I have a theory. It is because they practic the art of saving face, that you do not do anything that would embarrass or humiliate someone and that you always speak with respect to someone. Here is a factoid: We have the highest divorce rate on the planet, Japan has less than half the divorce rate of the US. Do you see any correlation?

      Blesings on you and yours
      John Wilder

  2. wittywife says:

    “She is your equal and not a possession…”

    “Never ever use your superior strength against her..”

    I don’t think I understand how these two sentences can co-exist in the same paragraph (or mindset for that matter.)

    I am just curious, also, as to what your superior strength is as a man.

  3. wittywife says:

    I can only assume you mean physical strength, in which case I could understand.

  4. John Wilder says:

    There are basic biological differences between men and women. Men typically (but not always) have superior physical strength, particularly upper body strength. Yes physical strength is what I was referring to. Equal means in worth, not in attributes such as strength.

    Blessings on you and yours
    John Wilder

  5. wittywife says:

    I understand that equal means worth, not attributes.

    I was just concerned that you were referring to superiority in a way that wasn’t about physical strength.

  6. lauradroege says:

    I think you’ve nailed it, John. I can’t think of anything else I would add to this list.

    Oh, and I don’t see it as rooting against my team if you point out mistakes that women make! We need to hear it from a man’s perspective; like you said, my girlfriends are probably as clueless on men as I am. (This was particularly true when I was in high school and college, when I didn’t have very many guy friends. It would’ve done me a world of good to know what on earth I was doing wrong.)

  7. John Wilder says:

    Hey Laura:

    Thanks for the kind words. I was beginning to think that most women were man haters based upon the vicious hate speech I have encountered recently visiting other blogs.

    It is nice to get an encouraging word once in a while.

    Blessings on you and yours
    John Wilder

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