I am not big on the game or the rules. I believe they are just a way to play games and none of us really wants to play games. We want honest relationships. Men and women are both guiltyof game playing, STOP IT!
I believe in honestly communicating needs. This many times does not happen because we are afraid of being mocked or made fun of or being told off, so we feel like we have to hide what we really want.
Men want and NEED respect even more than they need sex. They need to feel like they are your personal hero. They want to be appreciated for how hard they try to please their women. Honest appreciation goes a long way to motivating more supportive behavior.
Too many women see themselves as their man’s “critic in chief”, it is not helpful for your relationship.
Men want their women to be accepting of their sexuality and NEVER making fun of or ridiculing it. They also want their women to get over their inhibitions and become sexually adventurous. I know that many women have more negative body issues over frilly lacy lingerie than they do swimsuits. Your man only cares about seeing you in lacy frilly lingerie because most men like it and I am not talking about just for sex, but all the time, lacy bras and panties as well as lacy nightgowns.
Men think differently than women do, this does not make us wrong, just different. I once saw a bumper sticker that said; “suppose there is a man in the woods, if he says something and there is no woman there to hear it, is he still wrong”?
When it comes to arguing, it is much better to have a collaborative problem solving attitude rather than getting your feelings hurt and bemoaning how lousy your guy is. Isn’t it better to say; “In what way can we resolve this?” Make the problem your enemy, not your husband. Become collaborative rather than combative.
Follow these simple directions for your married life for 30 days and see if it does not make a huge difference in your relationship with your man.
Guys, let me know if I left anything out here.
Blessings to all who read this.