In this day and age of rampant misandry (reverse sexism against men by women) men suffer from lack of respect. We went from the 50’s sitcom Father Knows Best to men are idiots.
If you want to have a good relationship with a man, it is imperative that you learn to show him respect. This takes many forms. The first that most women are guilty of is making fun of and putting him down for his sexuality. That is extremely unfair. God made us this way. It would be like a man making fun of you because you have periods. Comments like; “is that all you ever think about?” (the answer is pretty much yes, get over it) or “what are you some kind of sex freak or fanatic”? God made us with testosterone that gives us the strong sex drive. It is a double edged sword. The same testerone is the same thing that enables us to protect you with our lives. You need to be very careful and infrequent with your rejections of his romantic overtures. Men are never as sensitive and emotionally vulnerable as when they approach you for sex. We might be tough on the outside, but on the inside, there is a little boy who would be crushed as if his mom turned him down gruffly for a hug when we needed. Men get the bulk of their affectional needs met through sex with his wife. If you want more affection, the key is to give him more affection through sex.
Men and women think differently. This is especially true when it comes to childrearing.
Men tend to be rougher with kids and that is good, they need it. The dad who throws a child into the air with squeals of delighjt from kids, you might never consider doing. Men tend to be gruffer with discipline. They expect kids to tow the liine and kids need that too. This is especially tue with adolescents. Kids need a dad in the house. Without it the statistics for kids living in fatherless homes is staggering, from drop out rates, drug and alcohol abuse, early sexual experiences etc.
You need to show him respect in all areas of cummunication with him. You need to periodically sincerely compliment him on legitimate things worth complimenting. His ego needs it.
Men are fallible and make mistakes. You need to give them room to make mistakes without putting him down for it. The most professional athletes only have about a 30% success rate. For example the homerun king Babe Ruth only had a 30% success rate at getting hits. If these professional athletes can only achieve this level of success, your man should also be given the benefit of the doubt and never ever say: “I told you so”.
You need to take his back in disputes, not side against him with other people. He needs your loyalty. If you disagree with him, you need to do it in private. This is in all areas but especially not in front of your kids. If you have to argue, do it when the kids are not around.
Finally, give him soft answers especially when you disagree. Make the problem the enemy and not your man. Use phrases like: “in what way can we resolve this?” This appeals to his problem solving nature and gives him a way to work with you and not against you.
The ultimate issue between men and women is division of labor. Most men naturally shy away from housework. The solution is to sit down and talk to him and tell him that you need his help and list the chores and ask him how he would like to divvy up those chores? Again this beats nagging him.
Let me know how it works out for you. If you follow my directions, you would be amazed at how much better you get along with your man.