I found this in Men’s Health. I especially would call guys attention to doing it slowly both foreplay and intercourse. Too many women are left frustrated long after you are done. Spend some time holding her and cuddling her afterwards as well.
The difference between ho-hum and “oh yeah” is attention to detail.
“A lot of men just barely miss the mark,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., the author of She Comes First. “A woman doesn’t want to hurt a man’s feelings, so that’s one of the main reasons she’ll fake it.”
Be prepared to end her acting career thusly.
The fix: Prop yourself up with pillows and have her sit so that she’s facing away from you and leaning back against your chest. Reach around and use your fingertips or the flat of your hand along and between her legs in up-and-down, side-to-side, and figure-8 moves.
The gain: “This position is easy to maintain, enhances intimacy, and helps her relax—that way you can both be more effective,” says Kerner. Your other hand will be free to run over the rest of her body.
Trying to Be Too Creative
The fix: Hold your tongue steady.
The gain: “Most women need one consistent, repetitive motion in order to feel satisfied,” says Marshall Miller, coauthor of I Love Female Orgasm. It’s okay to run through the alphabet to explore what she likes, but settle on her preferred letter (or number or punctuation mark) to bring her to O.
Asking, “What do you like?”
The fix: Ask simple yes-or-no questions, such as “Does this feel good?” “The more you can tune into her feelings without having to talk about it, the better,” Kerner says.
The gain: She’ll feel, not think. “To climax, a woman has to be able to relax and let go. Asking complicated questions can inhibit the process,” says Kerner. Yes-or-no questions can ease her into providing more detailed feedback
Forgetting Slow Equals Intense
The fix: Use your thumb and index finger to gently massage her breast, first clockwise and then counterclockwise, says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., founder of loveologyuniversity.com. Then place your hand over her areola, and roll it with your palm. Finally, (very) gently pull and tease her nipple. Do one at a time, in slow motion.
The gain: This careful, intense formula combines several kinds of stimulation, ensuring that she enjoys the experience.
Exclaiming, “That was great!”
The fix: Celebrate more than just the physical: “I’ve never felt like that before,” or “You make me feel so amazing.”
The gain: A postcoital touchdown dance says you’re interested in just the sex, not intimacy. Plus, if she was less than wowed, you’ve devalued your sexual currency. Worse, if she doesn’t feel emotionally fulfilled, she may feel used. Lavish her with compliments about connectivity. Tell her how sexy it was when she gazed into your eyes.