20 Great Reasons To Have More Sex

20 Reasons To Have Sex
I have been navigating these blogs and I am sick to death of women making excuses and DEMANDING thei right to refuse their husbands sex. When I point out valid reasons why women should take care of their husband’s sexual needs, women come out of the wood work to call me a pervert, a misogynist and worse. All too often when a man critiques a woman she becomes vicious in her verbal attack in retaliation rather than dealing with the critique. Misandry (reverse sexism by women against men) is every bit as bad as misogony. Sex is one of the big 3 that couples fight about and break up over. It is the children who suffer because of their parents inability to resolve problems. So read what another relationship professional has to say about sex. According to Dr. Adam Sheck, “The Passion Doctor,” there are twenty reasons to have sex, even if you’re not quite in the mood. My work as a couples counselor is to help you create passion in your relationship. Sexual passion is certainly one strong contributor to overall passion. According to Drs. Patricia Love and Steven Stosny, “Studies show that, when things are going well, sex contributes only 15 percent to the overall satisfaction of a relationship. But if things aren’t going well, it contributes 85 percent to the dissatisfaction.” In keeping with this theme of passion, I present to you the following, excerpted with permission from the book How To Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It by Drs. Love Twenty Reasons to Have Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It

1. Because you said so Even though you may not have promised to “love, honor, and have sex once a week” when you made a commitment to your relationship, it was understood that sex would be part of that bargain. Imagine how the marriage rates would go down if people said, “I’ll marry you, but don’t expect sex.” If you polled one thousand people on the street and asked them, “Is it reasonable to expect to have to have sex when you are married?” the overwhelming majority would say yes. If you expect a monogamous commitment from your partner, then it stands to reason that you will be a cooperative sex partner.

2. Sex helps you forget Oxytocin, which triggers orgasm, has an amnesic effect that lasts up to five hours. So for a period of time you forget that he maxed out your Visa card or she was an hour late getting home from work. Women get an additional benefit. During orgasm that parts of the brain that govern fear, anxiety, and stress are switched off. (Faking orgasm gives no such benefit.) Sex Makes Our Brains Bigger. Seriously.

3. Sex rewires you for pleasure Every time you share a positive experience with your partner, your brain comes to associate him or her with pleasure. You can transform any relationship simply by increasing the number of enjoyable times you share together.

4. Sex puts the “P” back in partnership Passion is what separates your relationship with your intimate partner from those with girlfriends and buddies. Yes, you two are best friends and confidants, but without sex you will not have passion. The following are from a 1997 study in the British Medical Journal-

 5. Heightened sense of smell After sex, production of prolactin surges, causing stem cells in the brain to develop new neurons in the brain’s smell center (olfactory bulb).

6. Weight loss Rambunctious sex burns a minimum of two hundred calories, about the same as running fifteen minutes on a treadmill. British researchers determined that the equivalent of six Big Macs can be worked off by having sex three times a week for a year.

7. Reduced depression Prostaglandin, a hormone found in semen, modulates female hormones. Orgasm releases endorphins, producing a sense of well-being and euphoria.

8. Pain relief During sex, levels of oxytocin surge five times their normal level, releasing endorphins that alleviate pain. Sex also prompts production of estrogen, which reduces the pain of PMS.

9. Healthier heart Women who have more sex have higher levels of estrogen, which protects against heart disease.

10. Cure for the common cold Once-a-week sex produces 30 percent higher levels of immunoglobulin A, which boosts the immune system.

11. Better bladder control Sex strengthens the pelvic muscles that control the flow of urine.

12. Peppy prostate Some urologists believe they see a relationship between infrequency of ejaculation in men and cancer in the prostate. In this case solo sex works just as well, but why out on all the other benefits?

13. Shiny hair, glowing skin For women, extra estrogen from orgasm makes hair shine. Sweat produced during sex cleanses the pores and makes skin glow. Serotonin produces the afterglow of sex.

14. Calming effect Sex is ten times more effective than Valium, with no side effects. The (Very Sexy) Benefits Of An Empty Nest

15. Relief for a stuffy nose Really. Sex is a natural antihistamine. It can even help combat hay fever and asthma.

16. Firmer tummy and butt Regular sex can firm your tummy and butt, plus improve posture.

17. Boosts immune system Endorphins stimulate immune-system cells that fight disease.

18. Forever young Sex actually slows down the aging process. It lowers cortisol levels in the bloodstream, which reduces stress and slows down the aging process.

19. Protection against Alzheimer’s and osteoporosis Women who have more sex have higher levels of estrogen, which protects against Alzheimer’s and osteoporosis.

20. Euphoria Who wouldn’t want more? The best way to get a natural high is sex! 3 Ways Hot Weather Leads To Good Sex And finally, do you have any reasons YOU’D like to add to this list? Please comment on this post with your best reasons to have sex and I’ll publish a follow up blog post. Thanks so much, Dr. Adam Sheck

22 Responses to 20 Great Reasons To Have More Sex

  1. Bob says:

    I’d send this to my wife, except she’d say ‘ see I do have sex once or twice a week so you should be happy’
    I’m not happy, I ‘d like sex every day or most days. I asked her to engage in some kind of sexual activity every other day, because that’s how often my body craves it. I hate being around her when she’s naked because I desire her when I see her.
    It is , God forbid, one of the reasons I married her. And yet, I’m supposed to ‘control myself’

    Change this to – have sex with your husband 3 or 4 times a week and I ‘ll send it to her…I spent most of my life and 3 failed marriages feeling badly about wanting sex this much. To me it’s normal. To most american women, I ‘m a weirdo. I just don’t know what to do anymore. Maybe I’d be better off alone.

  2. Hey Bob
    You are completely normal and the average guy wants it 3-4 times a week.. Guys in their twenties want it every day. By all means show her my blog and my answer to you. I said in another blog that if a woman gives it to her husband 4 times a week and it takes a half hour that is only two hours during the week or put another way it represents 1% of her total time in the week. If a woman can’t give her husband 1% of her time during the week, her priorities are screwed up. Most guys dont even need a half hour for a quickie. I feel your pain.

    John Wilder

  3. Sharon Cochrane says:

    Hi John – praise God someone has finally come up with sane reasons for promoting sex within the marriage. I spoke with some months back and with all my chats with married men and their lack of sex in their marriage has led me to try and figure out why this is happening and what can be the solution to help these men. I will promote this article with every married man I chat with. I hope it can help some. I am seeing a lot of sadness, lack of respect, and resentment from men towards their spouses and I hope some have the courage to show this article to their wives. I know many won’t because they have given up already and either don’t want to rock the boat, they have lost interest in their wives, or they are just too pussy to confront her anymore. They are sick and tired of being rejected. And as a result they have lost their confidence in themselves and feel undesired and unwanted by females in general.

    You have stated many times that there is no sex manual to teach men how to give great sex to make their partners satisfied. You have to remember as well that when people marry, women are totally clueless (as are many men, especially when they marry young) that regular sex needs to be part of married life. If women married knowing they should put out so to speak every week or more, many may change their minds on getting married. I don’t understand why they come to resent the bodily invasion of the cock. If they understood the bigger picture of the great benefits of sex as pointed out in the above article they should very well want to engage in it often. Where this starts should be in marriage counseling and I’ll bet it is not. I would venture to say further that even men do not know these benefits of having sex as pointed out in the above article as well. That article should well be written in every women’s magazine in the world, every health magazine and men’s magazine as well. Keep spreading the word.

    Liked your article on how you came to be in the helping profession. I do hope your brother today is sane and lives a productive happy life.

    Sharon Cochrane

  4. Hey Sharon
    Sadly, he is a societal misfit. He spent 20 years in prison for bank robbery and currently lives in a back room in my other brothers fork lift shop.

    I think that you were the one who sent me the blow job article. It is my number one read article and continues every day. It has received well over 2,000 page views.

    I just don’t understand women. Sex feels good, why dole it out in little bits. Most women fantasize about living happily ever after but never give any thought to what that looks like for the man.

    It should not surprise you that we have the highest divorce rate on the planet. In Europe, women are much more sensual and enjoy sex for sex sake. Sadly we live in a very puritanical society.

    Blessings on you and yours
    John Wilder

  5. Oh and by the way, most marriage counselors never deal with sex. They are not comfortable with it. Is it any wonder that they have such a high failure rate.

  6. Bob says:

    I don’t know what to do . I ‘ll show her this thread I guess. She made a comment to me calling me ‘ the pervert who likes sex’


  7. Candice says:

    Dear Bob – poor you! Try massage – most women really love massage and get hooked on it. Teaming massage with sex can lead to more sex even if the lady does not naturally have a high sex drive! Personally, even if I did not get anything from sex, I’d do it just to get a massage and a cuddle!

  8. Candice thanks for your comment. I have as you know suggested massage to men in previous articles, I screwed by not suggesting it to Bob, but I suspect that his wife would turn down the massage knowing that he is trying to get into her pants.

    Blessings on you and yours
    John Wilder

  9. kdaddy23 says:

    Ya know I’m gonna mess with ya but you did see that your list kinda repeated itself, right? So, ah, it’s not really twenty reasons.

    Problem is, a guy isn’t going to get his woman to drop her drawz for him by spouting science fact no matter how interesting it might be and she might even be aware of it. You come at her like that and what she hears is a guy whining to her about not getting any; anyone wanna guess how that’s gonna go over with her?

    I’m not saying that the not-quite-twenty reasons are good ones; they are proven facts. But why would a woman care about them? Perhaps, as far as she’s concerned, they’re unrelated to whatever reason she has for not giving it up or, if they resonate with her, it still winds up being down on her overall list of things to do. It’s my opinion that the more things a woman has to think about and/or do, the lower the priority sex is given. And this can be proven by direct observation – and someone probably wrote a paper about it.

  10. kdaddy23 says:

    Meant to say, “…reason aren’t good ones;” – sorry about that, folks!

  11. Well there are a lot of self centered women out there Rob as you know. All I can do is provide people with ammunition and help, I can’t be held responsible for the results.

  12. kdaddy23 says:

    Ain’t just women who are guilty of this…

  13. Hey Rob
    Right you are, there are significant women who are highly sexed who are married to undersexed guys. The highly sexed women are just as frustrated as the men and are just as likely to cheat.

  14. bob says:

    massaged her feet last night, she told me’ you don’t have to do that’ then moved her other foot over for me to do that one. when I was done, i said ‘ my turn’
    she went to sleep.
    saturday night we argued about sex till 3 in the morning before we finally did it.

    john hit the nail on the head. She’s selfish.

  15. Hey Bob
    Did you show her the blog? Would she be willing to talk to me? I give a free half hour consultation. Just a thought.

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