The Secret To Having Happily Ever After

Whatsoever a man (woman) soweth, that shall he (she) also reap. Galatians

Women from the time that they were little girls have fantasized about having “happily ever after”

Sadly, this is usually a very self centered dream with her prince fawning over her and granting her
her every desire while she sits on her behind. Rarely do women give any thought as to what happily ever after looks like for a man.

For a marriage or a relationship to work there has to be give and take
It can’t possibly work when one is doing all the taking. This simply
builds resentment on the part of the man and he starts to withdraw
emotionally.

On behalf of men everywhere, let me give you what the average guy sees as “happily ever after”

Men want women to be our best friend, to have our back against all enemies. To listen to our hopes and dreams and be an encourager to us.

We want nurturing when we are hurting emotionally. We want you to give us sex willingly and lovingly and never ever put us down for our sexuality. It would be like putting a woman down for having a period.

We also want you to be sexually adventurous and throw off those inhibitions. You know what inhibitions are, they are stop signs to great sex. Too many women worry that if they fully embrace their sexuality, that the man will consider her slutty. No, what the man will think is that you are sexually sophisticated and that you want to please us. This creates tremendous bonds between men and women.
We want you to dress to please us which usually calls for frilly lacy lingerie not the deadly dull virginal white nylon panties with no lace and no color.

There is an old italian proverb in what a man wants from a wife and it sums it up quite succinctly: He wants a good mother for his kids, a good hostess for his friends and he wants a slut in the bedroom for himself. For you women who object to the term slut, how about sexual animal? We want you to have a sexual desire and initiate sex with us and not always make us come to you for sex.

In honor of Babygirl’s critique, let me add for you men, you need to do it much better for your woman. Too many of you want to get it over quickly with little foreplay for your woman. Sex feels good, take your time. When it comes to orgasms, it should ALWAYS BE WOMEN FIRST!
Instead of getting it over in 5 minutes, delay your ejaculation by withdrawing and going back down on your woman and gettting her off again and then reenter her. Doing it this way, I have literally have lasted for two hours and given the woman up to 20 orgasms. Finally, when you are done, don’t roll over and go to sleep. Go into the bathroom and get a hot towel and give your woman a quick hot towel massage and clean her up between her legs. Then powder her down with her favorite powder and rub it in. Then climb back in bed with her, take her in your arms and hold her and talk to her instead of making her feel like you used her like a “piece of meat’.

Women if you give your man his dream of happily ever after, you would be amazed at how hard he would work to give you your dream of “happily
ever after”.

What you sow, so shall you reap.

Blessings on you and yours
John Wilder

11 Responses to The Secret To Having Happily Ever After

  1. I did apologize a couple of times but you fail to grant forgiveness. That is on you. While we are on the topic, you did not identify your sister in the pic.
    That was an oversight on your part that led to my misinterpretation. You actaully share some blame in this. I will take you off my subscription list and not read your stuff any more.
    John

  2. I disagree slightly. There are some when given everything, won’t give back. You have to have a mutual understanding that the both of you want to be there for each other in order to receive your happily ever after

  3. Hey Babygirl;
    I agree with you totally, apparently I did not make that clear in my post. Of course you both have to give and be committed to your partner’s happiness.
    Blessings on you
    John

  4. Kimbery says:

    I love this post. Thanks for posting it. 🙂

  5. Lita says:

    Great post. I searched for it on Google. This blog is ranking well there. 🙂

  6. As much as I liked this article, I think it requires some insight.

  7. Hey Trinh
    Why don’t you post that insight for us all to read?
    John

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