Here is A Great Article For Women Who Have Never Given a Blow Job

This is a great guest post by a guy who only wants to be known as Larry. I respect that and offer his very understanding post to women who have never given their man a blow job and reassurance on how to handle it. Enjoy

John Wilder

Start of Guest Blog Post:

Fellatio (oral sex) need not be performed each and every time through ejaculation. It can be (and is) performed often as part of foreplay to intercourse. My thoughts presented here are for those times when the husband and the wife desire that the fellatio includes ejaculation. (Many married couples enjoy oral sex as a supplement to intercourse rather than as a substitute for it.)

Young women, who are new to the practice of fellatio, you do face a challenge when it comes to swallowing for your husband. In most cases, the young wife with a young husband (20s or 30s) is accepting and receiving significantly more semen than the middle aged wife with a husband in his 50s. The young wife, generally speaking, experiences more pulses of semen inside her mouth – with each pulse lasting longer and yielding more semen! As well, these pulses (shots) of semen (also known as “cum”) can be released inside her mouth with considerably greater force behind them. (I am in my early fifties now, and can remember having very strong ejaculations back in my 20s and 30s. These very gratifying ejaculations continued through several long, full (heavy) shots and produced a large volume of the cum.)

Until she gains experience with his ejaculatory process, and is comfortable with taking her husband’s penis in deeper so that the cum shoots down her throat, these forceful ejaculations can, for not a few women, be rather intimidating. It may seem to her that his ejaculation will go on and on as her husband keeps blissfully blasting away. And, some women simply are not able to take their husband in deeper due to penis size, mouth size, and/or sensitivity of gag reflex. For these wives, they have to become accustomed and comfortable with the seminal fluid “pooling” inside their mouth.

My point is this: young husbands, particularly those who ejaculate very strongly from the fellatio, need to be considerate of their wives and work with them so that the wife does not feel overwhelmed by the force and/or volume of his ejaculation. Couples can make adjustments and compromises so that the woman’s comfort and enjoyment are not lessened nor impaired by feeling as if she is “drowning” from a mouth full of cum. Open communication, trust, and respect are the keys!

(As an example of an option, wives, you can withdraw your husband’s penis from your mouth after the first few spurts if you feel the volume is becoming too much for you, and continue hand stroking him as he finishes on your breasts or neck. Realize that it is vitally important that you continue stimulating his penis so that his ejaculation can finish normally. To avoid any awkwardness and loss of stimulation at this time, be hand stroking his penis as you remove it from your mouth. Alternatively, and this is much better for your husband and can be easier for you as well, you can simply open or part your lips a bit more on his out-strokes, thus allowing some seminal fluid to drip or drain out. This way, as your husband pumps more semen into your mouth, some of it is being quickly removed. You really need not struggle to keep or contain his entire cum load completely within your mouth for the entire time. (It is not necessary to achieve that.) But, the fact that you are accepting and allowing his entire ejaculatory process to occur inside your mouth is very important both physically and emotionally for your husband. And remember: be sure to swallow as much cum as you comfortably and easily can! Please, no pulling an unhappy face, spitting into a tissue, or running to the bathroom to spit his ejaculate out. I will briefly discuss some other relevant aspects below.)

The husband needs to keep this is mind, and realize that as his loving wife gains experience and confidence, she will naturally enjoy the fellatio more and be more eager to perform it. His patience and consideration will likely be amply rewarded.

Ladies, the very special, shared emotional intimacy and exciting physical sensations of freely accepting and experiencing his ejaculation inside your mouth, and (quite naturally) swallowing the cum can – and ought to – be very enjoyable for you, as well as for your husband!

There are a few issues to touch on here as these do come up in the practice of fellatio and in discussions about it. Many women do have a reluctance to swallowing the ejaculate initially. Some are even opposed to accepting their husband’s ejaculation inside their mouth. This usually is a mental block and can be due to various fears. Wives, please consider some basic facts here and thereby eliminate these groundless and needless fears. If your husband is free of venereal diseases (STDs), there is no risk to you at all from swallowing his semen. Doctors (OB/GYNs) confirm this. You may wonder, just what is in that white viscous liquid that your husband happily blasts out on a daily basis? Seminal fluid is made up of water, proteins, sugars, various enzymes, minerals, vitamins, and (millions of) sperm cells. It is therefore not toxic! (By the way, the sperm cells are just that – tiny human sex cells (DNA). These sperm cells are not quasi human beings.) As to taste and texture of the cum, as you gain familiarity with these they are not likely to be a problem for you. Allowing for individual preferences, you will either be indifferent to these or may find the taste and texture quite pleasing and/or even mildly to highly erotic. When you remove the mental anxiety caused by these fears, freely accepting his ejaculation and swallowing become easier and readily appear as the natural things to do. You are then free to share and enjoy this very intimate, loving, and exciting experience with your husband.

Each couple can experiment with different positions so that one (or more) can be found that allows for easy swallowing. The wife can then switch to this position as ejaculation approaches. The husband can signal his wife when he is close to climaxing. A simple light tap on the shoulder, or on her hands, could be the cue she needs. Or a verbal warning can be used. If taking his penis to the back of her mouth and into the throat is not possible or is not desired, she can try to learn to swallow quickly after each spurt. With some practice, this is not as difficult as it sounds, and has the highly desirable

advantage of permitting the wife to swallow all of the semen, without letting any fall or drip away, even while her husband has a very long ejaculation. (If she desires, the wife can keep a glass of water or juice nearby for drinking after swallowing. This rinses away any remaining semen taste.)

Wives, when you are comfortable and confident with all aspects of the oral sex, you will then desire that your husband experiences a satisfying, strong and complete ejaculation from it. You will both look forward to this mutually desired outcome. When you, by your loving and playful efforts, bring him to this point, you and he will relish the sharing of the special moments. Your husband will know that you completely accept him and everything about him. And a man, needless to say, greatly enjoys ejaculating away inside his wife’s sensuous mouth, forcefully pumping all he has inside for her, and derives great emotional satisfaction when she welcomes this! Besides the emotional closeness, you will find that the control you have in bringing him to his climax is empowering, and will likely find the physical sensations of his spurts inside your mouth to be exciting and pleasurable.

As you continue sucking and/or stroking while he is ejaculating, if you can, gaze up into his eyes to show him that you value this sharing of his ejaculation. That semen is only for you. You both know this, and you want it. You are now comfortable and confident with his ejaculation, and do not hesitate in swallowing as he cums, or saving all the cum – as large a volume as it may be – until he is finished and then enthusiastically taking it down all at once.

Your swallowing is the exclamation point you give to your enitre tender, loving, and complete fellatio. Young wives, when you eagerly swallow for your husband, you are saying to him “I love you! I love your penis! And I love your cum (semen)!” That is being the best wife you can be for your loving husband. You have learned to enjoy this very intimate and special form of lovemaking. And your marriage bond will be stronger and better. (So my advice for the young wife is that you happily swallow all of his semen each and every time that you bring him to ejaculating inside your mouth. You will be (pleasantly) surprised at how easy this becomes with a little experience. You will find yourself swallowing his cum without really giving it a thought – it will be that natural to you to do. For those times, when you desire not to swallow, simply do not bring him to ejaculation inside your mouth. Keep the communication going and switch to intercourse, or have him ejaculate on to your body if you enjoy seeing him ejaculating. I really do hope this essay proves helpful to many married couples. Thank you for reading.)

One last point that I feel I should mention. There have been some concerns about throat cancer being caused by fellatio. Please note: it is not that the act of fellatio, by itself, poses such risks. If your husband has not been exposed to the strains of HPV that cause cervical cancer, there is no risk of this for you. If the head of his penis is free from the strains of HP Virus that are responsible for causing cancer, then again there is no risk of harm to you by performing fellatio. Past sexual history is therefore a crucial factor here. Not every man has been exposed to HPV, but it is out there and less rare than one might think. I do not know if there is a test for this to determine if a man carries the harmful strains of HPV. Common sense would dictate that husbands and wives should discuss this and be honest with one another. Common sense also leads one to the obvious conclusion that the risk of exposure is increased when one has had a larger number of past sexual partners. (When the bride and groom are virgins on their wedding day, there are no health risks or concerns at all.)

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  5. Larry Z says:

    One thing that I neglected to suggest in my guest blog (above) that my wife pointed out to me, is an additional option for the wife during her husband’s ejaculation. This variation can be used for those (infrequent) occassions when you do not wish to accept the force and full output of his ejaculation inside your mouth, yet still want him to ejaculate from your fellatio.

    For a new twist, as he nears orgasming, you can remove his penis from your mouth and with one hand gently grasping the base of his penis shaft, use your tongue to lick forcefully and rapidly along the entire length of the underside of his penis. You can finish each lick right under, or at, or just over the tip of his penis. Go back to the base and lick upwards again. Continue this rapid, forceful licking even while he is ejaculating. Do not stop licking until he is done spurting.

    My wife uses this option now and then. When she does this for me, it feels very good as the sensations from her forceful licking are rather unique and I ejaculate completely. The open communication makes this work for us. She tells me when she wants to finish her fellatio this way. I know what to expect and can help out by holding a tissue over my penis head if I am lying down to avoid making a mess.

    Wives be sure to communicate with your husband if you want to try this option. If your husband does not want to bother with a tissue to avoid making a mess, then before your start place a large shower towel under him or on the floor if he is going to ejaculate from a standing position. Depending on the position and where your tongue is as he spurts, you may likely get some cum on your face, in your hair, and in your mouth. This is messier than simply swallowing, but it is an option to consider when you do not feel up to accepting the entire load and force of his ejaculation inside your mouth.

    Wives, new to fellatio, you can also use this option right NOW as you are becoming familiar with and accustomed to his ejaculation and his cum. If he is standing and you are sitting or kneeling in front of him, use your free hand to gently cup or caress his balls. You will notice that his balls will pull up towards his body as he is very close to ejaculating. Also, the head of his penis may swell a bit more and become even harder just prior to his spurts. Earlier on, some clear fluid may begin to drip out of his penis. (You may taste some of this while sucking before switching to licking.) This is the “precum” which acts as a lubricant for the semen to be expelled easier. These changes are normal and tell you that he is close to cumming. (Remember all these changes when you are going to swallow his cum load. They will alert you that ejaculation is very near even if he forgets to warn you! Then you can be ready for it.) As well, you are tasting some of his cum as you are licking while he is pulsing out semen. When he has finished, swallow what is in your mouth, and lap up as much of the cum on his penis as you can and swallow.

    Make the fellatio fun as you learn what pleases him AND what you enjoy doing. In a fairly short time, you will be more comfortable with all aspects of it and you will greatly enjoy it. And you will then wonder: whatever was the big deal about it? And why were you so hesitant with simply accepting his ejaculation and swallowing it?

    A final tip that may help many wives is for you to suggest your husband shave his pubic area weekly. For many women, a neater, cleaner penis is more appealing and easier to fellate.

    And wives, as I advised above in the blog post, and it merits repeating: swallow for your husband (and for yourself!). When you do, you are totally woman and completely feminine. And no loving husband can fail to notice and appreciate that! Joyously receive his ejaculation and swallow all his semen WITHOUT hesitation.
    Best wishes.

    • Hey Larry
      As always you are the voice of reason. I would also suggest that when a woman is taking a break to catch her breath or
      resting her mouth that she needs to continue stroking her husband’s penis or he will lose the urge to ejaculate and
      she will literally have to start all over again.

      You are so right about shaving especially the penis. No one wants a mouth full of hair in her mouth. Thanks for your very
      cogent additional comments

      Blessings on you and yours
      John

  6. Hey Larry
    Your article had 9 page views for the quarter. I am back on active again
    John

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