Mistakes Men Make In Their Love Relationships

What Women Want In Relationship and Mistakes That Men Make

I have been accused by some women that I am a misogynist because I write about mistakes that women make in relationships. I do write more about that than anything else because no one else has the courage to suffer the slings and arrows that I do.
I am not anti woman or a misogynist, I am simply pointing out the common mistakes that women make in their relationships with men. It is just like Sex and The City where Carrie is clueless about men and goes to her gal pals who are equally clueless looking for answers. The problem is that they don’t have the answers. It would be like a guy going to his buddies and asking a guy what it feels like for a woman to be pregnant.

I try to be a resource for women to show them a better way based upon a lot of complaints made by men in my practice and on my blog. But to be fair, I need to take men on for the complaints that women make about men. This is only fair.

First men need to be mature. You need to be ready to commit to a relationship. You need to commit fully to it. You need to have a good job to be able to support a family.
You need to be strong emotionally and emotionally mature. You need to be strong and yet gentle respecting the woman and not trying to bully her. She is your equal and not a possession under your thumb. Never ever use your superior strength against her, it is designed to protect her not to beat her with.

You need to be ready for a family and study on what it means to be a good father as well as a good husband. You need to share the remote letting her watch her own shows in addition to your sports and blow em up movies. That means maybe also taking her to a musical , ballet, or symphony occasionally.

Be willing to go shopping with her at least occasionally and let her try on clothes while you watch and tell her what you like.

When problems arise, be willing to talk them out rationally instead of trying to bully her with shouting, pouting or emotionally withdrawing.

When it comes to sex, far too many men are about getting her done, but it really means is getting yourself done, and letting her needs go by the wayside. When it comes to orgasms, it is always ladies first. Don’t just roll over and go to sleep, but hold her and assure her that you love her, hold her and talk to her afterwards. Women want to feel loved and that you are making love with her instead of just using her as a piece of meat.
You need to be in it for the long haul and not look to other women when the going gets tough.

Well women , I invite you to share your thoughts with what I have written. Have I missed anything? Here is your time to explain what I missed. Just be nice in your comments because I was rooting for your team this time.

Blessings on you and yours
John Wilder
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The Paradoxical Commandments of Leadership
Posted on August 24, 2010 by stewartmccoy

1. People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered. Love them anyway.
2. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do good anyway.
3. If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.
4. The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
5. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway.
6. The biggest men with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men with the smallest minds. Think big anyway.
7. People favor underdogs, but follow only top dogs. Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
8. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.
9. People really need help but may attack you if you do help them. Help people anyway.
10. Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best you have anyway.

4 Responses to Mistakes Men Make In Their Love Relationships

  1. Mona says:

    In your personal opinion, is it okay for my husband to blatantly ask me to give him a blowjob, or to have sex using symbolism such as; “You want to bounce around on my face?”, “You want to smash your buns?”, “You want me to beat your buns?”, “You want to do ‘wreckingthat ball’?”, “You want to go have sex?”, etc… ??? Is it okay for my husband to air-hump my face while I’m laying on the couch? Or for him to put his 2 fingers separated, and tongue between them, and move his tongue around as though he’s doing oral on me, while I am laying on the couch studying, or driving in the car with him, or while I’m cooking, or doing other household chores??? Is it OK for my husband to kiss my butt, literally, first thing in the morning, or before kissing me on the mouth, or first thing when we lay down to go to sleep, adding the comment.. “Look at that ass it’s so HUGE!!”
    When do you draw the line? O don’t find it respectful to women or to me being his wife, I find it very degrading and disrespectful, which I have told him 10to times over the last 6rime months. Instead he combats me in saying … “Sorry that I love you, MY WIFE, and I love everything about you and your perfect body!” As if its supposed to make me feel guilty for speaking what’s on my mind and telling him how I feel and that it tears me down rather than building me up as his wife!!?? What do you think???

    • Hey Mona
      I feel your pain and frustration. You are a lady and wanted to be treated as such.
      Tell him that you would respond better if he would hold you and kiss you passionately
      on the mouth and caress you.

      Having said that, as a man, we look at sex in much cruder fashion and he is trying to
      be funny and playful and romantic in language that makes sense to him. However the
      degrading comments about your butt are cruel and you need to tell him that in no
      uncertain terms.

      To help you understand him, the old Italian proverb about what a man wants in a
      wife: He wants a good mother to his children, a good hostess to his friends
      and he wants a slut in the bedroom.

      Here is a suggestion as a compromise. Tell him if he will stop with the offensive
      language that you will talk dirty to him in bed once in a while. Men love it, it
      is music to our ears. Sometimes we want to make love to you all sweet and tender
      and sometimes we just want to fuck your brains out and it would go a lone way
      if you could tell him with earthy passion that you want him to fuck you hard, and give
      you a proper pussy pounding. In order to get what you want, you need to be willing
      to compromise with him so that he can get a little of what he wants as well.

      John Wilder

  2. I love how honest and to the point this post is, and your blog in general! I feel you offer great advice. I’m single now, but hopefully, in my future mature relationships, my partner and I can be open and honest with each other without hurt feelings. The The Paradoxical Commandments of Leadership are great, and I’ve shared them on my blog!

    • Hey Monique
      Thanks for dropping by. Be sure to read the blog posts about how men can be better
      in the bedroom. I would suggest that you have any prospective boyfriend read them
      before you decide that he is a boyfriend and having sex with him. If he refuses
      to read them, throw him back as he is self centered and not a good match for you.

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