A Woman’s Guide To Pleasuring Your Man and Embracing Your Sexuality

July 22, 2012

Pleasuring your man,

I quite enjoyed reading the posts on penises 😉 and figured to contribute my own two cents. First of, let me start out
by saying that in my experience, men love sluts in bed.As the saying goes, “A lady in the streets and a slut in bed” or 
something like it. As you outlined in your posts, you can be a faithful christian and still have a naughty, slutty side to you. All too often, women that are comfortable with their sexuality are mislabeled.
First off, men are aroused by what they see and what they hear. Put on something nice 
for him, preferably something lacy or silky. Men looovve heels. There is something about them that gets their blood flowing into all the right directions. Put on some nice lingerie as well as some lace-up heels andit will be on girl.Men also seem to be into glossy lips so do not forget to top if off with some nice lipgloss. It will give him a kickwhen he sees those glossy lips sucking on his finger or wrapped around his shaft. 
Finally, get our nails done. Run them over his shoulders and down his chest, give him a sexy sigh and tell him how turnedon you are by finally finding a real man.
Also use them to tickle his balls while you are getting him warmed up. 
Put on some romantic music, light some candles or the fireplace, put a nice rug on the floor if you got one and slip on something slutty for him. Let him get comfortable, on a couch or bed. Straddle him and drive your fingernails over hisshoulders and chest (see above) while making some subtle noises that let him know you are turned on by his manliness.
Nibble on his ear and whisper that he can have whatever he wants tonight, while slowly opening his shirt. Then run your nails over his bare chest and shoulders. Sit back a little and admire his bod while biting your lower lip or letting your tonguelick across your glossy lips. It will turn him on.
Lightly bite, suck and nibble on his neck while pressing your tits against his bare chest. The feeling of your tongue andhot breath on his neck as well as your tits pressed against him will send him to cloud 9. 
Slide down on him and gently suck and nibble on his nipples. Women are not the only ones to  have sensitive nipples.Go further down until you are kneeling in front of him and rub his already hard cock through his pants with the palm of yourhand. For an extra effect use the other hands to rub your bald pussy, giving him some sexy moans and letting him know thatyou are just as excited as he is.
Slowly open his pants and pull them down. Leave his underwear on.Comment on how hard his cock is and how much it turns you on.Most likely his hard shaft will be clearly visible through
the underwear. Rub it with your palm, then put your lips on it and trace it while lightly touching it with your tongueand blowing hot air on it. Rub your pussy while doing it, it will be a major turn-on for both of you.
If the head sticks out, very lightly run your tongue over it, giving it a nice shine.
Then suck on his finger while giving him a sexy look and rubbing his shaft and ask him if he wants you to do this to his
If he hasn’t taken his underwear off by himself by now, slowly pull them down. Again, make a sexy noise that let’s himknow you are pleased by what you are seeing.
Before using your mouth, take his cock and trace your tits  especially just your nipples. Rub his shiny head around your hard nipples and givehim a sexy moan. The shiny trace of his cream on your tits will make him hot.
 If you are well-endowed, suck his cream from your nipple while stroking his shaft.
Now he is ready for your mouth. Put your tongue at the base of his shaft and slowly run it up and down his cock while never losing eye contact with him.Take his dick between your lips and run them up and down while tickling his testicles with your fingernails. Before you get
to the head, lick over his balls and gently suck them into your mouth. 
If possible, suck on an ice-cube before doing that. It will make it so much better for him. 
Circle his shiny head with your tongue and let him know how good his cream tastes.
While giving some resistance with your lips, very slowly push his pulsing head into your mouth, circling it with your tongueand sucking on it. While sucking the head, make sure to keep eye contact and moan for him.
After a little while, he will most likely grab the back of your head to push it deeper in your mouth. Let him,you can supressthe gag effect by using normal cough medicine. Let him fuck your mouth.
After pleasing him for a little while, lay back on a rug and let him watch you rub your tits and pussy. If possible have a little bottle of baby-oil  or better yet some KY lubricant near by and squirt it on your tits, rubbing it in slowly.Then tell him in a sultry voice that you want him to fuck your titties.  The way you do that is to use your arms to mash your breasts together and invite him to shove his dick between them.  If you have given your cleavage some nice lubrication, it will feel just like your pussy to him especially the tighter that you squeeze your tits together.
Do this for him once and I can guarantee you he will be wrapped around your finger.  Embrace your sexuality and be sexually adventurous for him as well as yourself and you will be surprised at how romantic he turns.

Here Is The First And Most Important Chapter in My Book, It Is About How To Have Peaceful Coflict Resolution and Stop Fighting With Your Spouse

July 3, 2012

This is the first and most important chapter in my soon to be published book (JANUARY 2013 ON AMAZON) entitled SEX EDUCATION FOR ADULTS, SECRETS TO AMAZING SEX AND HAPPILY EVER AFTER TOO. I need your help to make it a best seller. I want to prove that a book written from a Christian perspective can be a best seller in the secular world. I welcome all ideas on how to promote it and ask that you join my blog and ask other contacts to as well so that I can notify you when the book is published. It will only be $9.95 and I guarantee you more and better sex, better relationships with your spouse or your money back. When have you ever seen an author offer a money back guarantee? Would you like us on Twitter and retweet this post on Twitter please? Thanks for your help in advance.


Fighting comes naturally, peacefully resolving conflict does not. I am sure that you can remember all too well fights that you have had in your own relationship. The problem with fighting is that no one wants to “lose” the fight so we lock into combat that almost always escalates into dysfunction. That dysfunction can be screaming, throwing things, cursing and/or hitting a spouse.

I had a couple as a client locked into dysfunction. The woman had gotten into a pattern of screaming, cursing and throwing things. The husband admirably did not hit her, but tried to keep the peace because of what the wife’s tirades and tantrums did to the children. She once broke her own finger by repeatedly slamming the front door harder and harder. Problems were never resolved; she just bullied the husband to get her own way. I could not reach her and they ultimately got a divorce. She continued these patterns in a subsequent marriage.

I always tell my clients to first go and study two movies from the rental store: THE BREAK UP, and WAR OF THE ROSES. You can see art imitating life. Study these movies and see yourselves portrayed in these movies. Watch and see the mistakes that they have made and that you have made similar mistakes as well. Children are terrified when they hear parents fighting. Remember the scene from PRINCE OF TIDES when the young children ran and jumped into the bay. They lived in an idyllic setting on an island. They escaped by running out of the house and jumping into the water. Most children don’t have that option and simply suffer through the fights, terrified. If you have not seen The Prince of Tides, it is also mandatory on my homework list.
To avoid those problems and dysfunction, I have listed some techniques that are guaranteed to work if you will use them. I tell my clients that they both need to agree to change their ways. They also need to forgive each other and enact the old familiar slogan from the playground: A DO OVER. Admit that you have both made mistakes and that as a couple you want a do over and agree to rules that I have listed for peacefully resolving the conflict. A great idea is to adopt the physician’s vow about dealing with your conflicts; “ First, do no harm.”

When a spouse is angry with you, the first rule is to SHUT UP AND LISTEN. I know that it is hard to do. You need to let them get out everything that bothers them before you counter their arguments. Once they are done, ask to repeat back what they said so that you and the spouse are sure that you understand the problem. Then ask: “In what way can we resolve this problem”? This goes a long way to resolving the problem. Calmly discuss solutions. “A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger” Proverbs 15:1


Too many times people are locked into winning. The problem with winning is that there is also a loser who will feel humiliated.
Better to “agree to disagree”. In this way, neither party feels like they have “lost” the argument.


If negotiating has not worked and the person is still adamant that they want a solution the Bible has a solution: “The lot causes contentions to cease and parts the mighty.” Proverbs

Casting lots was a dice game, but a modern day corollary would be a flip of the coin to settle the issue. You both have to agree in advance that this will settle the issue, and then stick to it.


When you are in a discussion where you both have a point of view that you feel strongly about, there is another alternative. You can agree to negotiate the argument for a peaceful settlement. You can do this by adopting a 10 scale. You each assign a numerical value form 1-10 depending on how firmly you believe your side is worth. You have to give an honest evaluation. Using a 10 where there is absolutely no room for negotiation, to a 1 scale where you could go either way. Come up with a legitimate number to assess your position. Suppose your
spouse is at a 7 and you are at a 4 then you agree to give in to the spouse’s 7 to make for a peaceful resolution.


Another good way to resolve the argument is to simply compromise half way between the two points of view. Both parties feel like they got something and don’t feel humiliated.

The Ten Commandments for Fair Fighting

1. Never argue in front of the children, it harms and scares them.
2. Don’t ever hit your spouse.
3. Don’t curse at or call your spouse names, it is abusive.
4. Don’t attempt to get your way by bullying your spouse.
5. Don’t withhold sex to get your way.
6. Do not scream at your spouse it is abusive.
7. Do not interrupt; it is disrespectful, listen until they are done.
8. Do not take revenge for perceived hurts.
9. Develop a peacemaking attitude with questions like: How can we resolve this?
10. Don’t give people the “silent treatment”. It is revenge and it is emotionally abusive.
I have re-written an old nursery rhyme that is more appropriate: Sticks and stones can only break your bones but words can wound a spirit, break a heart or kill a relationship.

Remember, your job as a spouse is to nurture your spouse. You can’t do that when you are being self centered. According to Dr. Laura Schlesinger, self centeredness is a leading cause of divorce. You also don’t nurture your spouse when you attempt to bully them in an argument instead of peacefully resolving the conflict while respecting them and their feelings.

Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man (woman) be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: for the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God. James 1:19

The big problem is that the vast majority of people don’t heed the above scriptural mandate. Most people are doing just the opposite: they are quick to anger, quick to speak and slow to listen. If you can follow the scriptural mandate, you will be amazed at how much better your marriage works.

You need to adopt the oriental philosophy of “saving face”. This is a philosophy of mutual respect. It is considered in very poor form to in any way deliberately disrespect another person. Their rules are very rigid in that you never ever would consider doing anything that would cause someone to feel humiliated or embarrassed. Our western culture clearly does not teach respect for other people’s feelings.

Finally, if you can’t resolve an argument, then seek out the services of a marriage coach. Avoid marriage counselors at all costs. The dirty little secret in the industry is that marriage counselors have a 75% failure rate according to some leading counselors turned Marriage Coaches like Dr. Willard Harley, author of HIS NEEDS, HER NEEDS and Michelle Weiner Davis, author of DIVORCE BUSTING. Marriage counselors have you come back for weeks and talk about feelings. Coaches concentrate on resolving problems in a short period of time. If
you need help, put into your search engine and look for marriage coaches, or just email me at marriagecoach1@yahoo.com

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