Seeking Ideas To Add To My New Book: Sex Education For Adults, Secrets To Amazing Sex and Happily Ever After Too

June 12, 2012

Embarking on writing a book is a huge undertaking. Actually selling it is an even bigger undertaking.

I am counting on all my readers to give me ideas to include in the book entitled: Sex Education For Adults, Secrets To Amazing
Sex and Happily Ever After Too.

The premise of the book is that we have no “school for sex” and many men have no clue about how to really pleasure
a woman based upon the myriad comments made to me by women about how lousy most guys are in bed.

Sadly women are often negatively affected by church teaching them as girls that sex was bad, dirty and wrong
and that good girls don’t do it. Often they are negatively conditioned for life and have real ambivalence over
their sexuality based upon this early teaching. It often shows up in what they refuse to do in bed and
what lacy and frilly lingerie they refuse to wear for their husbands. Sex is one of the big 3 that couples fight
about and get divorced over.

Speaking about fighting, there is no school to teach couples how to have peaceful conflict resolution with each
other instead of battling with each other and treating each other as the enemy. Sadly traditional marriage counselors
don’t teach this very vital skill and as a result have a horrendous failure rate of about 75%.

I have those issues dealt with in my book. Where I would appreciate input is in the following areas:
Great dates, cheap dates, seduction dinners complete with recipes, lovemaking techniques, foreplay
techniques and your first time stories.

Help me here readers won’t you please and won’t you please tell people about the up coming book that will be
published on Amazon January 10. 2013


A Very Controversial Post, Why Do We Circumsize Boys, It is Worth Reading

June 7, 2012

This is a repost from my blog freind Larry Z and I commend it to you as a very thought provoking article. He is an articulate and “outside the box” thinker and a previous re-blogger on my Blog
Why do we circumcise?

Modern doctors (in the US) routinely advise new parents to circumcise their baby boys. It is a given in many hospitals that newborn males will be circumcised, if possible, before they are allowed to leave the hospital. (No other industrial country does this to their baby boys.)

Why do we in the USA do this to our baby boys? Why do parents consent to this without giving much thought to their decision and its life long adverse effects on their son(s) and their future daughter(s)-in-law?

Let’s ignore the vested financial interest that doctors, interns and hospitals have in this procedure that is done a million times each year. (When nationalized health care systems have been put in place in English speaking countries, circumcision has not been covered as it is correctly deemed an unnecessary surgery.)

Is it that the son must look like his father? As others have pointed out, we would not amputate a baby’s arm if his father had previously lost his arm. Yet, with circumcision we are amputating healthy, useful tissue for no good reasons.

Do we circumcise (mutilate) in order to prevent cervical cancer, the spread of venereal diseases, and masturbation? Well, all these problems were to be prevented or at least greatly lessened by circumcision. That is what the doctors told us. At one time or another these were the defenses of circumcision offered to parents and to society as a whole. By the way, all the numerous evils (cervical cancer, the spread of venereal diseases, masturbation, etc.) that circumcision was supposed to eliminate were never eliminated by it. All these myths, masquerading as truth, have been debunked long ago. (The masturbation myth is really offensive to people’s intelligence. The doctors in the 1800s asserted that masturbation was responsible for many maladies including epilepsy. And the way to stop masturbation was to circumcise because the greater sensitivity of the natural penis (with its thousands of nerve endings) was the cause of masturbation. People really believed these quack doctors on this. If such were true, with all the circumcised males in this country, one would think that masturbation would be very rare indeed! Forgive me here – but the truth is the truth. Hey doctors, masturbation has more to do with seminal glands being full to overflowing when there is no other sexual outlet available.)

Regrettably, even today, people blindly listen to doctors and show them the deference due a medieval priesthood. Doctors are not incapable of error. They are not infallible and they can, and do, have their own agendas at times.

Why is this important? Fair enough. Circumcision is a major issue because it so grievously injures marriages by abnormalizing coitus for both the wife and for her husband. Our brains and genitals are wired for natural sex – not for circumcised sex. Do not take my word for it. This thesis has been very well developed by Kristen O’Hara in her book, Sex as Nature Intended It (2002) which is very comprehensive in its treatment of why natural coitus is more enjoyable and gratifying to both the wife and her husband. (Kristen obtained many comments from women who had had the comparative experiences of having natural husbands/partners and having circumcised husbands/partners. She also obtained the comments and insights of men who had been circumcised as adults and could compare from their own personal experiences natural coitus and circumcised coitus.) Basically, the point is that a vagina and a natural penis (not circumcised) can do truly wonderful things together that cannot be done with a mutilated, circumcised penis. (Go out to Amazon and get a copy of this book. It is very informative and will open your eyes to the truth of the damage that circumcision does.)

When circumcised adult men think about what they have been deprived of, it is very painful for them. This is understandable. Yet, choosing to remain in a state of denial, as so often happens when one is dealing with great pain and hurt, does not help our children and is not the right thing to do. Perpetuating the superstitious practice of needless infant circumcision is opting for perpetuating ignorance and assaulting future marriages.

It is rather ironic that we have a federal law on the books (from the mid 1990s) prohibiting the genital mutilation of girls in this country, but we look the other way when the genitals of boys are routinely mutilated day in and day out. And foreskin restoration is not the solution to this injustice. As the old adage says, “an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure” is apropos here. Foreskin restoration is a very lengthy and difficult process in that it requires a very large commitment of time, effort, and inconvenience and does not always yield good results for many men.

To Christians that are concerned with children’s rights, I would humbly point out that children do have a right to bodily integrity. We do not hear of Catholics or Protestants condemning this needless mutilation of baby boys in this country. (In fact, it was Protestant doctors that introduced circumcision to the US in the late 1800s. It was not universally advocated for the entire population by Jewish doctors or Rabbis. Do not blame or fault Jewish folks for this. Also, Catholic bishops failed (and still fail) to condemn this harmful practice because they believed the doctors’ claims about masturbation’s terrible health effects and that masturbation would be lessened or eradicated by circumcision.) And this is not a “gay” or “straight” issue. This is about whether we are going to confront erroneous beliefs and correct our thinking such that we start doing to justice to our children.

Lastly, women have a right to natural husbands. For the sake of future generations’ marital happiness and strength of marriages, we – both mothers and fathers – really need to oppose this practice.

We, as Americans, need to overcome our ego-centrism in thinking that our way is the only way or even necessarily the best way to do things. The rest of the world is correct in not doing this to their baby boys.

Thank you for your time in reading this.


Marriage Is About Sharing, Share This Funny Post With Someone You Love

June 5, 2012

Thanks to Dennis one of my readers for sharing this humorous story. Enjoy and blessings on you and yours. John Wilder

A little some thing to lighten your day.

The old man placed an order for one hamburger, French fries and a 
drink. 

He unwrapped the plain hamburger and carefully cut it in half, placing one 
half in front of his wife.

He then carefully counted out the French fries, dividing them into two 
piles and neatly placed one pile in front of his wife. 

He took a sip of the drink, his wife took a sip and then set the cup down 
between them. As he began to eat his few bites of hamburger, the people 
around them were looking over and whispering. 

Obviously they were thinking, ‘That poor old couple – all they can afford is 
one meal for the two of them.’

As the man began to eat his fries a young man came to the table and 
politely offered to buy another meal for the old couple. The old man said, 
they were just fine – they were used to sharing everything. 

People closer to the table noticed the little old lady hadn’t eaten a bite. 
She 
sat there watching her husband eat and occasionally taking turns sipping 
the drink.. 

Again, the young man came over and begged them to let him buy 
another meal for them. This time the old woman said ‘No, thank you, we 
are used to sharing everything.’

Finally, as the old man finished and was wiping his face neatly with the 
napkin, the young man again came over to the little old lady who had yet 
to eat a single bite of food and asked ‘What is it you are waiting for?’ 

She answered

‘THE TEETH.’


10 New And Inexpensive Dates To Take Your Wife On, Keep Dating Your Wife for Happily Ever After

June 1, 2012

If you want to stay happily married you need to continue to date your wife. You should always plan these, make arrangements for the sitter and let her relax and have fun. It will pay off handsomely in a more contented wife. You need to continue to make her feel pampered and cherished.

Go horse back riding then have a picnic in a canyon

Go on a late night hike to the top of a hill away from lights, bring a blanket and watch the stars.
 
Take a roll of pennies to a fountain and make wishes out loud as you throw them in.

Build a bonfire roast marshmallows (try roasting other things as well)

Get up extra early, watch the sunrise, then make breakfast together

Make life lists together

Have a candlelight chocolate making evening. Experiment with candy recipes. Everyone loves chocolate… become the chocolate giver

Write a letter, put it in an air-tight bottle and throw it into the ocean or a laker or even a river.

Ride a horse-drawn buggy

Go exploring with your date to find the coolest building in town. Then you can take a tour/ explore and have a picnic outside


Today My Blog Went Over 100,000 Page Views Check It Out And Help Me Make My Book a Best Seller

May 30, 2012

I am calling on all my Christian friends to help me make my book a best seller. It is entitled: Sex Education For Adults, Secrets To Amazing Sex and Happily Ever After Too. It is based upon biblical principles. It also shows all the sex positive messages from the Bible. You know what you hear in church is mostly that sex is bad, dirty and wrong and that “good girls don’t do it”. They never ever teach you all the sex positive messages in the Bible. Sex is one of the big 3 that couples fight about.

That is another reason to help me make my book a best seller. Divorce in our country is about 50% and among Christians it is not much better. I teach couples how to stop fighting and instead have peaceful conflict resolution. Traditional marriage counselors don’t teach these very vital skills and this chapter is also biblically based. I tell my coaching clients that even if they are stone cold atheists, the scripture quotes are outstanding psychology in and of themselves. How can you argue against: ”Don’t let the sun go down on your anger” and “a soft answer turns away anger”

Sadly the ones most devastated by divorce are our kids. Most of the problems in our country stem from kids who grew up in a single family home. One need only look at the president of the United States to see how skewed your world view can be when you only have one parent. This is not God’s plan.

My book is unique in the sex self help and marriage self help genre. I can’t find anything like it on Amazon and it is surely needed. So do me a favor and spread the word by word of mouth. Here is what you can do to help. Re-blog this post if you have a blog, hit the Twitter button at the bottom to Re-tweet this post, subscribe to this blog by hitting the RSS feed at the top right corner of the blog and tell all your friends.

The book will be published on Amazon January 10, 2013. It will be an E-book but even if you don’t have an E reader you can order it from my web site as a downloadable PDF book so you don’t need an E reader to buy it. It will be $9.95 and I promise you that it will be the best $9.95 you ever spent or I will return your money. How many books give you a money back guarantee?

If you have a business, you can advertise it in my book. I have embarked on a best seller strategy and have been studying on how to sell books for 3 years now. You can be a tax deductible sponsor of my book for a mere $50 now or $100 when it goes to press. It is a novel way to bring more customers to your website. You can also sell it as an affiliate and I pay 40% commission if you order it from my site rather than Amazon.

So I ask you to pray about it and make a positive difference in the world.

Blessings on you and yours

John Wilder


Christians Help Me Make My Book a Best Seller

May 29, 2012

I am calling on all my Christian friends to help me make my book a best seller.  It is entitled: Sex Education For Adults, Secrets To Amazing Sex and Happily Ever After Too.  It is based upon biblical principles.  It also shows all the sex positive messages from the Bible.  You know what you hear in church is mostly that sex is bad, dirty and wrong and that “good girls don’t do it”.  They never ever teach you all the sex positive messages in the Bible.  Sex is one of the big 3 that couples fight about.

That is another reason to help me make my book a best seller.  Divorce in our country is about 50% and among Christians it is not much better.  I teach couples how to stop fighting and instead have peaceful conflict resolution.  Traditional marriage counselors don’t teach these very vital skills and this chapter is also biblically based.  I tell my coaching clients that even if they are stone cold atheists, the scripture quotes are outstanding psychology in and of themselves.  How can you argue against:  “Don’t let the sun go down on your anger” and “a soft answer turns away anger”

Sadly the ones most devastated by divorce are our kids.  Most of the problems in our country stem from kids who grew up in a single family home.  One need only look at the president of the United States to see how skewed your world view can be when you only have one parent.  This is not God’s plan.

My book is unique in the sex self help and marriage self help genre.  I can’t find anything like it on Amazon and it is surely needed.  So do me a favor and spread the word by word of mouth.

The book will be published on Amazon January 10, 2013.  It will be an E-book but even if you don’t have an E reader you can order it from my web site as a downloadable PDF book so you don’t need an E reader to buy it.  It will be $9.95 and I promise you that it will be the best $9.95 you ever spent or I will return your money.  How many books give you a money back guarantee?

If you have a business, you can advertise it in my book.  I have embarked on a best seller strategy and have been studying on how to sell books for 3 years now.  You can be a tax deductible sponsor of my book for a mere $50 now or $100 when it goes to press.  It is a novel way to bring more customers to your website.  You can also sell it as an affiliate and I pay 40% commission if you order it from my site rather than Amazon.

So I ask you to pray about it and make a positive difference in the world.

Blessings on you and yours

John Wilder

 

 

 

 


10 Romantic Dates For Your Spouse, Keep Dating Your Spouse

May 28, 2012

Women feel taken for granted by their husbands because once they get married most men do take their wives for granted.  Men you need to stop this and continue to romance your wife and make her feel special and she will make you feel special in return. Here are some ideas to help keep the romance alive.  You need to date your wife at least once a week.

1.  This one is expensive but will give her a lifetime of positive memories.  Take her out to a NICE restaurant and have reservations made at the restaurant and have tickets to the symphony.  Even if you don’t like classical music, it is awe inspiring to hear it in a great symphony hall.  If you really want extra credit have a limo pick you guys up and make love to her in it on the way home.  Most limo drivers are very sympathetic to romantic hanky panky in the back seat.  Having his window rolled up between you guys is optional depending on how exhibitionistic you want to be.

2. Here is another expensive one but guaranteed life long memories.  Take her on a balloon flight with breakfast and coffee in route.

3.  Take her for a dusk flight over your city and circle over your house in a small plane, hold hands in the plane.

4.  Take her to play minature golf and make sure to lose to her.  Then take her to the arcade and play arcade games together.  Wrap your arms around her and cop an occasional feel while doing these activities

5.  Take her to a state fair and eat junk food and ride the rides and make like teens again.

6.  Take her to an airshow, you will never forget what those planes do in mid air and it is thrilling and exciting and the food at the food vendors is cheap and parking is usually free.

7.  Go to the beach in the early evening and have a picnic dinner together and then make love when it gets dark and go skinny dipping afterwards, VERY ROMANTIC.

8.  Play hookie from work and take a mental health day and get lost exploring your city or a nearbye city. Make sure that the kids have a sitter and go make love in a motel room.  Sort of like an adult Ferriss Bueller’s Day off.

9 Ask her what her idea of a romantic date is and then give it to her.

10 Send her flowers for no reason, have a sitter for the kids and make her dinner at home and then clear the dishes and make love to her right there on the dining room table and eat her for dessert

 

 

 


YourTango Launches “Love-o-Matic,” The Love Fact Generator

May 25, 2012

http://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/yourtango-launches-love-o-matic-the-love-fact-generator-153522615.html

YourTango Launches “Love-o-Matic,” The Love Fact Generator

Did You Know:

72% of women have considered leaving their marriage

33% of one-night stands turn into relationships

60% of married men have been unfaithful

Get More Irresistible Facts…
NEW YORK, May 24, 2012 /PRNewswire/ — YourTango.com, the digital leader in love and relationships, has launched Love-o-Matic, an addictive new app that lets users access hundreds of juicy, fascinating facts about love, dating, marriage, breakups, sex, infidelity and more.
Love-o-Matic offers an array of unexpected, informative and entertaining data. Just a sample of featured Love-o-Matic facts:
Impotence is grounds for divorce in 24 states.
The average single person goes on 100 dates before getting married.
Strippers who are ovulating make more in lap-dance tips than those who aren’t.
Men who kiss their wives in the morning, on average, live five years longer than men who don’t.
Couples who don’t have a TV in the bedroom have 50 percent more sex than couples who watch the tube in bed.
50% of men would break up with a woman if she gained a lot of weight.
Nearly 75% of Americans have fantasized about group sex.
22% of women ages 30 to 44 make more money than their husbands.
The average man’s ideal woman is 60 pounds lighter than he is.
Only 3% of arranged marriages end in divorce.
Beer lovers are 60% more likely to sleep with someone they just met.
The average affair lasts two to four years.
Married men who help with housework have sex more often than husbands who don’t help out around the house.
One in five long-term relationships starts while one or both partners is involved with somebody else.
“We have discovered that most people cannot help but compare themselves with others — especially in the incredibly private, personal realm of love and relationships,” states YourTango Founder & CEO Andrea Miller. “Our goal is to give users a fun way to see how they stack up, along with a bunch of spicy tidbits in an entertaining, clickable app.”
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YourTango.com is the digital leader in love and relationships. With a mission to help users live their best love lives, YourTango offers award-winning content, community, tools, and connections to relationships experts to over 3.3mm unique visitors per month.

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A Male Advice Columnist For Women To Get Advice as Well as Guys

May 25, 2012

I was always amused at Sex and The City’s Carrie the Sex Columnist. Being that I write about sex I just don’t get
women who want to go to her gal pals like Carrie did. Your women friends are just as clueless as Carrie and her
gal pals. If you are having trouble with a man, does it not make more sense to go to a trusted male friend for advice
on men. Going to your gal pals or your mom or sister is sort of like a guy going to his buddies and asking what it
feels like for a woman to be pregnant. Stupid when you think about it huh?

It is for this reason that in the very near future I am going to be launching my daily advice column. I will give advice
to women on their problems with guys (we really do think differently from you and your gal pals). I will also offer advice
to men on how to romance your woman and more importantly on how to make love to her better so that she is more willing
to make love with you when you want it. So the column will offer relationship, marriage and sexual advice free and very
frank.

Tell your friends about it. In addition to the daily free advice, I am also a marriage, relationship and sexual coach
with a great success record of about 80% whereas traditional marriage counselors have a horrendouos failure rate averaging
75%. I am so good that I offer a money back guarantee or you don’t pay if you feel that I have not helped. Call any 6
marriage counselors from the phone book and ask them if they will match my offer. (they won’t) You might even refer me
to Angie’s List (a subscriber referral service to good providers in different fields.

Until the new blog is up feel free to drop me any questions right here and try me out. I am doing this for the kids
because kids of divorce and living in a single parent home are a lot more vulnerable to life’s problems because they
need both parents in their lives full time.

So before you get a divorce try me as a last resort. Most people don’t really want to get divorced but they just want the
pain to stop. I can show you better ways to handle conflict in your relationship without hurting each other and more
importantly your kids.

I have prepared to handle your questions from a spiritual, psychological, sexual or physical problem. I have education in
all these areas. I have a BA with a double major in Bible and Behavioral Science. I also went to nursing school as well
as Graduate School for Clinical Psychology.

So let the questions begin. I am also a resident expert on the sites advice.lovedetour.com and yahooanswers.com


To Live Happily Ever After, Love Like A Puppy

May 23, 2012

You know that puppies are pure love.  How can you not love a puppy?

People make love too difficult. If you give love like a puppy, unconditionally

and with abandon, people should love you back.  The key is to get your loved

one to aggree to loving you back like a puppy.  There are entirely too many 

people who are nasrcissistic and self centered who take instead of give.

 

In life there are givers and takers. Givers give and takers take.  Invariably they get together

because it is a symbiotic relationship.  The problem lies in the fact that the giver burns out

because the taker rarely gives anything back in return.

 

If you are hooked up with a taker, I say sit them down and have a talk with them

and insist that they give back to you or you will throw them to the curb and find

someone who will give back.  If they don’t come around then make it stick and 

find someone who understands love is giving back and taking care of you as well.

 


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