A New Milestone

March 17, 2012

I just went over 80,000 page views. Yea Me. With WordPress new stats page I can now follow how
many countries are tuned into my blog. Would you believe that I have readers in over 101 countries.

I started this blog to help people with their personal lives, their marriages and most importantly their sex lives.
My comments have been overwhelmingly positive on here and I thank all the readers and commenters for your input.
One wonders if there is anybody out there actually reading your advice.

My number one detractors have been women for whom I have held accountable in their role with their men.
This is not surprising as the number one complaint that I get in my practice of marriage, relationship and
sexual coaching is that women don’t make it safe for men to tell them the truth if it has anything at all
to do with critiquing the woman. Women invariably will go all defensive, yell, scream, call him names
and/or cry with the goal of teaching that no good man to never do it again. What they do is kill their
own relationships. They ALWAYS reserve the right to critique husband but does not believe in the husbands
EQUAL RIGHTS to critique her.

If you force someone to shut up and keep their feelings to themselves like that you are in the process
of killing your own marriage or relationship. They will withdraw away from you and eventually the relationship
will fail.

Women you need to be able to listen to your man’s complaints about you and instead of going all postal on him you
need to ask him: “in what ways can I resolve this or make this better for you?” and then listen and follow his ideas
as much as possible. The relationship that you save can be your own. This is doubly important if you have
kids at home. Kids in a single parent family have the odds staggeringly negative against them. Most of the
problems in our country can be directly or indirectly traced to single parent families.

I am open to critique on this milestone. I am also open to guest posts on here. So feel free to drop me a note
in the comments section or drop me a line at marriagecoach1@yahoo.com. Also if you are having marriage, relationship
or sexual problems I will be only too happy to help you. I give an unheard of in the industry money back
gurantee.

blessings on you and yours
John Wilder


The Number 1# Mistake Most Wives Make

September 13, 2011

This is a great guest post found in Your Frisky online magazine for women. It completely agrees with what I have been writing on here. Read it, the marriage that you save could be your own.
Blessings on you and yours
John Wilder

By Sarah Baron
A friend of the Anonymous8 is a single middle age woman who is petite, beautiful, and a go-getter. She has dated a lot. She is interested in a long term relationship, so she is careful who she dates. She has gone out with numerous men, and boy, did she learn something interesting from listening to them.

One night she explained that she made a major discovery about men from her new dating life. Now, we are all curious. We wondered what is it that she found out?

What she has discovered is so simple and basic and it makes so much sense that you will want to slap yourself in the forehead. Sometimes you need to hear it from the outside to see if it applies to you.
First, almost all of the men she has seen are divorcees. She explains that every one of her dates tells her the same story.

“Ladies, let me tell you what. All of these men, they say exactly the same thing to me. And you can see it in each of their eyes. They felt ignored, like their needs weren’t met, like they were last on the list. They tell me this EVERY SINGLE TIME (take your index finger and tap it with vigor on the table while reading that for emphasis), that they were put behind the kids and the friends and were not led to feel as important as other parts of their ex-wives lives. They were lonely. Each man’s story – it’s like a broken record.” And with that last thought, she lets out a sigh.

She goes on. From there, the marriages start to die. These men saw the needs of everyone else came before their needs were met. They were all lonely, and things fell apart.

Of course, this got us all thinking. Have we been doing this to our husbands? Or have our husbands been doing this to us? And it was a slap in the face, a wake up call, and a chance to readjust some of our priorities.

The moral of the story for me is that marriage needs to be at the top of the priority list. I heard it once like this – take care of yourself first (yea! like that’s real easy or achievable when you are in the trenches with kids and jobs and husbands to tend to…), your marriage second, and your kids third. Kids need a happy mom and dad, a supportive family unit, and parents who invest in each other.


Hey Guys, Here are 10 Tips From Women On How To Get Them To Give You More Sex

July 22, 2011

We got women to confess what makes a man irresistible. Follow these tips to become that guy.

1. Play the Name Game
“Say my name, often. It makes me feel as though you’re totally focused on me.”

2. Pay Up
“Be generous when we’re on a date—offer to pay, tip well. It will make me think you’re just as giving in bed.”

3. Get Your Hands on Her
“Touch me on the arm while talking to me, on my shoulder if standing above me, on my hips if standing behind me, around my waist if walking beside me. It’s a subtle but effective way to let me know you’re genuinely interested.”

4. Ace a Classic Move
“On a cold night, wrap me up in your coat and kiss me on the forehead. It’s a movie-style move that makes me go weak in the knees.”

5. Excite Her Entire Body
“Sweep the hair away from the back of my neck and kiss me there. It sends sexy tingles everywhere.”

6. Be a Gentle Man
“Be gentle when you’re touching my clitoris—I can always thrust towards you to show you I need more pressure.”

7. Speak Softly
“Whisper in my ear while we’re having sex. Tell me how amazing my skin feels, how sexy I am and how good it feels to be inside me.”

8. Get Rough with Her
“I love it when a guy is playfully rough in bed—a tender bite, a bit of hair-tugging—it make sex feel even more passionate.”

9. Be Her Alarm Clock
“Wake me up at 5 a.m. by heading down under. I may be half asleep, but I’ll soon be smiling all over.”

10. Say Something
“Make contact the next day. This rule holds true forever.”

Read more: http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/get_more_sex/index.php?cm_mmc=DailyDoseNL-_-645766-_-07222011-_-body#ixzz1Sr9fhnoe


Stop Having Wam Bam Thank You Maam Sex, Do it Better

March 16, 2010

Too many of you guys out there have the notion of getting it over as quickly as possible. This leaves your women angry, resentful and unsatisfied. For you women reading this, have your guy read it and tell him that you want him to step up to the plate.

First of all, it is women first when it comes to climaxes. Too many of you when you are done want to roll over and go to sleep. Women need to feel like you made love to her and hold her, talk to her and cuddle with her afterwards. If you omit this, she just feels like you used her like a piece of meat and that any vagina would do. She feels like you don’t really love her when you do this.

Women need romance and foreplay to get into the mood. You need to take your time and tease her and stroke and fondle her and make her crazy. The best foreplay is long enough that she begs you to take her because you have driven her crazy with desire. This takes time and foreplay and getting her off manually and orally, but wouldn’t sex be better if she was begging you to take her?

Once the intercourse starts, SLOW DOWN and give her slow motion sex. She will love it. Look into her eyes and tell her that you love her and how good she feels to you inside. Stroke her breasts and nipples and suck them at the same time. Stroke her hair. Guys, sex feels good, why do you want to rush through it? If you feel the urge to climax, pull it out of her and go back down on her and get her off again with your tongue or a vibrator. Then climb back on and start again. By starting and stopping like this, you can make sex last for a couple of hours. You will be a hero in the bedroom and become a legend with all of her friends and relatives if you make love to her for two hours without stopping. Think how much better it will feel to you and how much more pleasurable it will be to you as well. If you follow my advice, she will be coming to you and asking you to do her, and she will definitely give it to you when you want it. Isn’t that what lovemaking should be


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