We got women to confess what makes a man irresistible. Follow these tips to become that guy.
1. Play the Name Game
“Say my name, often. It makes me feel as though you’re totally focused on me.”
2. Pay Up
“Be generous when we’re on a date—offer to pay, tip well. It will make me think you’re just as giving in bed.”
3. Get Your Hands on Her
“Touch me on the arm while talking to me, on my shoulder if standing above me, on my hips if standing behind me, around my waist if walking beside me. It’s a subtle but effective way to let me know you’re genuinely interested.”
4. Ace a Classic Move
“On a cold night, wrap me up in your coat and kiss me on the forehead. It’s a movie-style move that makes me go weak in the knees.”
5. Excite Her Entire Body
“Sweep the hair away from the back of my neck and kiss me there. It sends sexy tingles everywhere.”
6. Be a Gentle Man
“Be gentle when you’re touching my clitoris—I can always thrust towards you to show you I need more pressure.”
7. Speak Softly
“Whisper in my ear while we’re having sex. Tell me how amazing my skin feels, how sexy I am and how good it feels to be inside me.”
8. Get Rough with Her
“I love it when a guy is playfully rough in bed—a tender bite, a bit of hair-tugging—it make sex feel even more passionate.”
9. Be Her Alarm Clock
“Wake me up at 5 a.m. by heading down under. I may be half asleep, but I’ll soon be smiling all over.”
10. Say Something
“Make contact the next day. This rule holds true forever.”
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These are all very good and the kiss on the back of the neck is the best. Actually when my ex-husband stop doing those things I knew our marriage was in trouble. People forget that sex is a huge factor in your marriage- without it makes it nearly impossible to last!
I am so sorry that your ex did that to you.
Blessings on you and yours
John